# College Confidential Search RSS feed of ' I am having a nervous breakdown and don ' t know how to get out ' Quantcast College Confidential I am having a nervous breakdown and don ' t know how to get out Pre - College Issues High School Life Emily817 September 25 , 2015 , 1 : 35am # 1 I have never felt like I had any true friends at school and this year I took on a heavy course load I just feel so lost and stressed all the time I was so worried about what my parents would think about my math grade that I lied to them about the class average . They found out and took my car away . I feel like I am a terrible human being and I feel so lost . I think I ’ m having a long - term nervous breakdown . My hands always shake and I always have headaches and I feel like i can ’ t breathe . I hate myself and I have contemplated sending myself to the hospital just to get away from everything . But I ’ m a high school senior and I ’ m afraid my parents won ’ t let me go to college if I tell them about this . I don ’ t know what to do . I can ’ t tell my guidance counselor or anyone , because they ’ ll call my parents or they ’ ll call someone to take me away from my parents . They do it all the time at my school . I ’ m a failure and I cant see a way out . please help me . dyiu13 September 25 , 2015 , 1 : 59am # 2 You might want to join an online community of teens with mood disorders such as anxiety , panic , and such . Try NAMI . Of course you ’ re not terible . You lied to your parents probably because you were afraid . If you don ’ t let your parents in on your mood issues , then you should immediately start using the counseling center at your college once you start . Or maybe you find a community - based self - esteem group now or in the summer prior to college . Perhaps even a girls camp ? But in the meantime , read up on coping and resilience for young people . If you can , see a therapist now . Would your parents permit you to see one , say as you prepare for the transition from high school to college ? Also , do you have tutoring in math available at school now ? Of course you ’ re not a failure . Madeline25 September 25 , 2015 , 2 : 32am # 3 Take a deep breath . It may feeling like you are dying now , but I promise it will pass . I have OCD and cried last night because I felt terribly lonely . I had to go out of class the day before that and walk around because I got so overwhelmed by the work . But today , I ’ ve had a good day . You ’ re not a terrible person . You ’ re trying your hardest and you have hit a few bumps along the way . I totally get the parents thing . You do need to tell someone though . Chances are its not going to go away and only get worse in college . If you really aren ’ t ok telling your parents , there is probably somewhere in your area that offers free mental health services . Therapists are bound by law to keep even minor ’ s issues private unless they have reason to suspect that you are going to severely hurt your self , another person , or are being severely hurt by someone else , and it doesn ’ t sound like those exceptions apply to you . Telling your parents is honestly the best thing to do though . It took me being a complete wreck and dragging myself down from my room so my mom would see me . You can always write them and email or letter too , if you don ’ t want to talk face to face . I know I have to remind myself that even sometimes it doesn ’ t seem like it , our parents just want to help us . I ’ m sure all your parents want is for you to get better and go to college . Your post breaks my heart because it sound a lot like what I ’ ve been through . PM me of you need anything ok ? Emily817 September 25 , 2015 , 2 : 55am # 4 @ Madeline25 I ’ m just not sure what to do because they ’ re pissed at me . And I ’ ve tried to talk to them before about it but they tell me that I ’ m being manipulative . Emily817 September 25 , 2015 , 2 : 57am # 5 @ Madeline25 Should I just wait a few more days until they calm down ? I just don ’ t have any friends that I talk to on a normal basis so I just feel so alone . I ’ ve never had any history of mental illness , so I don ’ t know why it ’ s manifesting now . intparent September 25 , 2015 , 3 : 12am # 6 I don ’ t see this as a reason you would be “ taken away from your parents ” . That is in situations where a minor is typically being physically abused or neglected . I do think you should talk to someone at your school – guidance counselor , school psychologist if you have one , or a teacher or administrator that you trust . You need adult intervention . Maybe just dropping a class and picking up a study hall would reduce your stress a lot . Don ’ t lie to your parents any more ( that usually makes them MORE mad than what you are lying about ) . Given what you have said , your parents may be right to worry about the stress of college . At least consider what type of college environment you want . And there is nothing wrong with 2 years of CC to start with if it makes sense for you . nw2this September 25 , 2015 , 4 : 54am # 7 You should ask your guidance counselor about their confidentiality policy . Many won ’ t tell your parents unless your are a danger to yourself or someone else . Since you fear not being able to go to college , I am guessing your are not a danger . You can also talk to your family doctor , if you are over 18 they can ’ t tell your parents anything . They might prescribe anti - depressants . Even my 15 year old had to sign a release for us to be able to have access to her medical information . Self help books might be an option . Lots of churches provide free confidential counseling . Regular church services can be pretty uplifting too . Waiting2exhale September 25 , 2015 , 5 : 11am # 8 Yes , as @ nw2this has said , you can talk to your family doctor . I was surprised to find that she could not reveal anything my daughter revealed to her unless my daughter gave explicit permission . Your letter breaks my heart . I also understand the concern about the community policing the children ’ s protective services seems to play where you live , and your subsequent fears of them being notified and taking action . So for that reason , I wish you would speak with your family doctor . You know , you ’ ve said a bit here in this forum , and we all hope that brings you some relief , because once you ’ ve let the words out , it feels less heavy , less a secret that can blow up your whole world . When you feel you are clear enough to let your parents know all that you wish you had support with , please go to them . Let them understand that you must do more than seek affirmation of who you are in school , and that you need a little guidance to get back on track . Tell them you fall sometimes , but they ’ ve taught you how to get back up , but it still hurts , and you need them now . Let us know you are okay . Momalways September 25 , 2015 , 6 : 40pm # 9 Hey there , Emily ! First of all , accept and acknowledge your feelings to yourself , maybe write it all down . Feelings are real and validate them , regardless of whether the reasons are right or wrong . Your health comes first so let ’ s focus on that . A broken arm does not wait for treatment neither should our minds when they are in dysfunction . You need treatment now . Know that your parents will love always . It ’ s ok to seek inpatient help , should a doctor decide it ’ s necessary . The first step is to call a professional , psychologist , psychiatrist , MSW or your PCP . Tell them the truth about how you feel and trust professionals . Ask all your questions but trust them . You have some long term issues that can be processed through counseling . These are very important issues , not to be taken lightly , but will need long term work . As a parent I would say parents are on your team but situations can differ . But first talk to a professional . Hope you get help now . readingclaygirl September 27 , 2015 , 10 : 28pm # 10 You need to talk to someone , an adult you can trust . I don ’ t understand why they would take you away from your parents . Senior year is a very stressful time and these are also the years when a lot of people are diagnosed with mental illness . You are not alone . newjerseygirl98 September 28 , 2015 , 12 : 33am # 11 I doubt you ’ ll be taken from your parents , you ’ re not being abused . Taking privileges isn ’ t abuse . Most seniors are stressed , and not because of their parents . Try to explain to your parents why you ’ re stressed . If you can ’ t talk to them , talk to a counselor first . If these feelings have recently begun , it ’ s probably because of school , not a mental disorder . You ’ re not a horrible person ! Feel better . steellord123 October 2 , 2015 , 12 : 49am # 12 You ’ re a failure because of one math class or lack of friends ? Your problems can be remedied and if you think not , your perspective is part of the problem . A guidance counselor is unlikely to be helpful . You may need a psychologist . I didn ’ t have friends either . Kids that age can be real devils , so you might want to try socializing outside of school or if you ’ ve got a bad rep for some reason , consider transferring . Just remember there are always options * Home * Categories * FAQ / Guidelines * Terms of Service * Privacy Policy Powered by Discourse , best viewed with JavaScript enabled