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It ’ s great to see you . If you ' d like to talk with people who know what it ' s like ( BUTTON ) join now Our forum members are people , maybe like yourself , who experience mental health difficulties or who have had them at some point in their life . * Forums Mental Health Issues and Experiences Anxiety Forum JavaScript is disabled . For a better experience , please enable JavaScript in your browser before proceeding . Nervous breakdown * Thread starter Duncan * Start date Jun 10 , 2013 * Tags control feel happening year years D Duncan New member Joined Jun 10 , 2013 Messages 2 Jun 10 , 2013 * * # 1 Hi , I would like some advice or help please . A lot has happened this year , I lost my job , then my Father died , who I had not seen for 15 years , but not without trying , then my wife decided to end our marriage after 21 years , but we had been together for 26 years . She had been unsure for a year or so , but it still came as a massive shock , she told me 5 weeks ago . I am still in love with her so much . I think I am suffering from a nervous breakdown , I cry continually all day , I can ' t cope with anything really , I hide myself away , I feel so guilty and ashamed of myself , I burst out in tears the other day in the supermarket because I couldn ' t get my card out of my wallet , I don ' t sleep , I have panic attacks at night where I can ' t breathe , and my heart is pounding , and I feel so out of control , I wake up crying , I didn ' t even know that was possible , please someone help me and tell me what is happening to me ? I have a doctors appointment in 4 days time , but worried they will just put me on antidepressants , i am worried about taking those . I have no history of depression , please someone advise me what is happening to me , i feel so out of control . * Hug 1 Fairy Lucretia Fairy Lucretia Well - known member Joined Apr 9 , 2011 Messages 36,944 Location Magical fairy wonderland x Jun 10 , 2013 * * # 2 oh Duncan I am so sorry to hear you are going through so much xx welcome to the forum and a huge hug from me xx if you are worried about going on medication , maybe if you print off your post from here and show your gp it will give them a really good understanding of how you are feeling and what is going on in your life right now a million hugs to im so glad you have found this place we will help you as much as we can xx Angels Fire Angels Fire Well - known member Joined Apr 22 , 2013 Messages 1,031 Location Liverpool Jun 10 , 2013 * * # 3 Hi Duncan , I am sorry to hear what you are going through . : hug1 : I think you have done the best thing by going to see the doctor about all of your symptoms and if you really don ' t want to take any meds then maybe just request some counselling ?? Sorry I can ' t be of much help . Stay strong and be safe xx A Andrew Lorimer Guest Jun 11 , 2013 * * # 4 Duncan you ' re okay . You ' re reorganizing yourself perfectly naturally . D Duncan New member Joined Jun 10 , 2013 Messages 2 Jun 11 , 2013 * * # 5 Please clarify Andrew Lorimer said : Duncan you ' re okay . You ' re reorganizing yourself perfectly naturally . Click to expand ... Hi Andrew , oh I wish I felt that inside , kind encouraging words though , Please could you elaborate on what you mean ? A Andrew Lorimer Guest Jun 11 , 2013 * * # 6 Hi Duncan , You have suffered several loses in your life recently . Each one of which can be life changing . You seem to be a middle aged man and you give no detail of any mental ill health . The shock you experienced , the crying , the failure to cope as previously , feelings of guilt and shame . These are all normal mental and bodily reactions . The pounding heart too is a bodily reaction helping you to manage your current situation . You are panicking because you find it difficult adjusting to your new life conditions . You must try to think about yourself and what has happened to you . * Like 1 F fallen Guest Jun 11 , 2013 * * # 7 Hi Duncan , Sorry you ' re going through this . You are not alone in this - I know how you feel as I had the same reactions when I had my latest bout of depression and this came with a great deal of anxiety too . I must clarify that I am not a professional so would advise going to see your gp for a proper diagnosis - you may find that counselling would benefit you - I have previously done CBT ( Cognitive Behaviour Therapy ) which can help retrain your thought processes although you may find grief counselling would be more beneficial . Please keep talking on here too - we are happy to support you . : hug1 : P . S . I just remembered a book I read that might help you : ' Self - Help for your Nerves ' by Dr Claire Weekes . It explains how the body reacts to stress and fear and gives ideas to help overcome this to enjoy life again . Last edited : Jun 11 , 2013 R Rose19602 Guest Jun 11 , 2013 * * # 8 Hi Duncan , Sorry to hear about this . I think the panic and tears are probably representative of what is going on emotionally perhaps . When loads goes wrong within a short space of time it ' s impossible to cope . Don ' t expect too much . You start to think that you cannot control events in your life and that leads to panic , not sleeping and anxiety . The crying may be loss or simply sadness ... not surprisingly . Seeing the GP is fair enough . He may prescribe antidepressants or sleeping tablets perhaps , or he may ask you questions to find out what is going on . With no depression in your past this is probably going to be seen as something " reactive " I would think ... it may be depression . I don ' t know . It may pass on it ' s own , or perhaps you will need some support or decide to take something to calm you . Only you can make those choices and many people take something short term to help get them through a difficult period like this . Talking things through might help very much if the feelings are overwhelming , but I agree with Andrew ... I think that the feelings and emotions coming out are normal reactions and it would be a good idea to give yourself a break and allow yourself to " feel " and get out these very understandable feelings . Maybe discuss it with your GP and see if he can offer you any counselling if that is what you want . Drugs aren ' t the only thing that GP ' s offer , although counselling may have a waiting list . Also consider charities and hospices . Many offer grief counselling or pure counselling too . Some offer a nominal charge . Whatever you decide , stick around and keep us informed as to how you are . Welcome to the forum btw ! x 0 0072121 Well - known member Joined May 27 , 2013 Messages 92 Jun 13 , 2013 * * # 9 Duncan one thing which has and is helping me is exercise . Take it easy at first if your older ( you have been married a long time so i am assuming you are fairly old ) but exercise is good as it relives stress . It can be hard and don ' t ware yourself out too much but its good to get into a daily exercise routine . When your exercising it will take your mind away from anxious thoughts , it releases something which i have forgotten what its called that reduces stress and you will become healthier . The improvements you notice will hopefully help your mental health and mood . Good Luck . ( See a doctor first and talk about exercise he might suggest a suitable exercise or routine depending on your health factors . ) You must log in or register to reply here . 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