“我经常在思考，我们为什么需要婚姻，人活着的意义在哪里。现在很多年轻人不相信爱情，更不相信婚姻，我的工作就是让她们相信，有爱情的婚姻是大有存在的。”说这话的人叫金子，一名婚礼策划师，可贵的是，这项工作是新人婚姻的一个开始，中国人讲究百年好合，当然需要一个好意头，金子为此而倍感骄傲。

“I have always been thinking that why people need to get married, and what’s the meaning of life. Many young people don’t believe neither love nor the marriage, while my job is to make them believe it, there are lots of marriages with love in this world”, a wedding planner Jin Zi said. What’s valuable is that the job is a good start for a new marriage, and the Chinese people pay attention to the eternal love which needs a good beginning, Jin Zi is quite honored about it.

婚礼策划师，是一种较为新型的职业，他们把新人的婚礼赋予了更多个性而富有创意的表达。对金子来说，每接到一场婚礼时，她都需要用尽全力去设计、去聆听。不同的爱情，不同的故事，了解她们如何相知，结婚的理由。而一场好的婚礼也正是这样，不在于举办得多么奢侈或盛大，而是用自己的方式铭记彼此最真诚的誓言和最幸福的时刻。

Wedding planner is a relatively new type of occupation who gives more creative expressions to the wedding. For Jin Zi, every time when she takes over a wedding she will try her best to listen and design. Different weddings have different stories, knowing how they encountered with each other and why they made up their mind to get together are important to make a good wedding. It’s not about how grand it is, but about making the genuine moment memorable and everlasting.

从相爱到最终修成成果，从两个人的事情变成两个家庭的事情，再到白头偕老，这是一条漫长的道路，婚姻的意义就在于，两个人在这个过程中彼此依靠相互成长，变成更好的自己。对金子来说，除了见证婚礼，她也看到很多人在婚礼前夕因为各种变故而放弃选择，金子觉得，她对于爱情不在，情人分离的看法宽容而豁达，有遗憾，更有祝福。

It’s a long way from the moment two people meet and go into two families and then grow old together. The meaning of marriage lies in the mutual understanding and dependence which will make them into better ones. However, Jin Zi has also seen many couples give up the marriage just before their wedding for different reasons, and she thinks that if love’s away, there is regret but more good wishes should be given to them for the future, which is rather tolerant and open-minded.

婚姻，让花前月下的海誓山盟变成相濡以沫的白头相守，一纸婚约也让爱情变成亲情，让彼此变成对方最重要的人。婚姻是爱情的延续，而婚姻到底是不是爱情的坟墓应该由婚姻的选择者和经营者决定，于自身而言，我宁愿我的爱情死在坟墓里，而不是荒郊野外。

Marriage makes vows of eternal love into day-to-day life, and the piece of marriage paper has changed the romance into family affection that made them become the most important existence of each other. Marriage is the sequel of love, while whether it will be the grave of love is decided by the parties. As for me, I would rather die in the grave than expose in the wild.

撰稿：心尘，译者：尚小桦