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LOGIN The only verified parents community LOGIN [facebook.svg] [gmail.svg] ____________________ ____________________ (Submit) LOGIN Forgot Password If you are not a member Sign Up The only verified parents community Parenting >> blog >> Child Psychology and Behaviour >> How To Cope With Teen Disobedience? Child Psychology and Behaviour How To Cope With Teen Disobedience? Aparna Balasundaram 11 to 16 years Created by Aparna Balasundaram Updated on Sep 21, 2018 How To Cope With Teen Disobedience The journey from childhood to teen-hood goes by so fast - and while you might not have changed much, your child certainly has. It isn't about hugs and cuddles any more, but eye-rolls and sulking. You start to wonder if there's an impostor in your child's place. Even an ‘expert' like me sometimes runs into a stony wall of silence or a simmering volcano of angry emotions with my teenager. Handling a teen can feel like walking on egg shells every minute of every day. Our wellness expert Aparna Balasundaram, shares her valuable insights into teen behavior, and tips on how you can cope. Tips To Cope With Teen Disobedience As a parent of one teen to another, here are some practical everyday parenting tips that could guide your teen and youthrough the rebellious years ahead. 1. Understand the psychology behind this disobedience: A common concern among parents of teens is “Why is my child rebelling? Am I doing something wrong?" + Part of being a teen is ‘rebelling,'trying to establish his or her identity and find her voice and place in the world + According to psycho-social development theorists, this is actually a healthy sign! This means your teen is trying to think for himself, trying to be independent and is trying to ‘flap' his wings in preparation to fly the nest. So, be prepared for – “No, I won't" or “Why should I?"—familiar phrases that will question your parental authority + Don't take it too personally, emotionally blackmail them, doubt their love or your ability as a parent. At the same time, do not be held hostage to your teen's demands, anger outbursts or silences. Balance and consistency is key 2. Set clear realistic boundaries:Teens will test boundaries, and that is normal, and even good. + It is important that the rules you had for them when they were 10 years old need to be revised now + When setting these updated home ground rules, make sure they are realistic— for example, you cannot tell your 15-year-old that they have to be in bed by 9 PM or they have to be back home by 7 PM. That might have worked earlier, but now move the bedtime to 10 PM and curfew to 8 PM 3. Dealing with consequences: Decide beforehand, the consequences of breaking your rules. + The key is to involve them in deciding what the consequences will be. While this might take some time and negotiating on both sides, it's important you do not skip this step. + This way your teen can take more ownership, will feel heard and feel it is fairer, and this in turn will increase the likelihood of his sticking to ground rules. 4. Pick your battles: You will need to be wise and pick your battles, and use the precious time you spend with your teen to focus on more serious issues. Don't get caught up or distracted by your son's long hair or your daughter's black nail polish (let the school principal deal with that!); instead talk to your child about the dangers of drugs or the Internet sites they frequent 5. Show empathy: We've all been there, done that, right? You have been a teen, too, and you know that your troubles were important at that stage in your life. So try and put yourself in your teen's shoes, and shower her with plenty of love. Know when to give her space and when to step in. Pursue an activity that she likes, together, maybe once a week. Or schedule a fun outing – shopping or lunch. Being engaged in an activity allows her to open up to you, rather than pointed questioning While you learn to give them space, make a conscious effort to ask for your teen's opinion and involve her in family decisions – this makes her feel heard and acknowledged as an ‘adult.'The bottom line parents is, just as you enjoyed cuddling them and breathing in that yummy baby smell, now make a purposeful effort to enjoy this stage by developing the patience to trust them, the courage to let them explore, the resilience to mentor and build them—all while keeping faith in yourself and your teen Also Read * How to Tempt 12 Year Child to Eat Healthy? * Best Christmas Gifts Ideas For Your Teen * Volvo Cars Spearheading The #Breathefree Campaign For A Cleaner Future * “I Should Have Stopped Comparing My Child With His Tuition Friends” - A Mom Confesses. * This Summer Vacation Watch These Movies Your Teen More Similar Blogs * Is your teen turning into a rebel? * When your child leaves for higher studies... * 5 Food Habits To Improve Your Child’s Focus And Retention For Exam Revision * Is Your Teen Depressed ? Depression Causes and Symptoms Parents Should Look * Introduce The Habit Of Letter Writing In Your Teen How do you deal with teen tantrums and sulking? Please do share your views, thoughts and feedback in the comments section below. * 214 * 19 * 242 * 101 x Comments(19) Kindly Login or Register to post a comment. [6a63b17e833a16f9d31204aaf101141d.jpg] [bword.png] | Jul 18, 2018 Amanjit Khangura Khangura 2018-07-18 Very nice i will try your tips * Support * * Report [6a63b17e833a16f9d31204aaf101141d.jpg] [bword.png] | Jul 18, 2018 Amanjit Khangura Khangura 2018-07-18 Very nice i will try your tips * Support * * Report [f4afb905b4312d7871bd42711ff83e92.jpg] [bword.png] | Jun 12, 2018 Gurpreet Kaur 2018-06-12 Nice Thanks * Support * * Report [1f9cf8ddcd34c9d284c3dd930f66b69f.jpg] [bword.png] | Apr 16, 2018 Maria Pereira 2018-04-16 very useful tips * Support * * Report [de3c0638a002fed8875fb6bb59dab679.jpg] [bword.png] | Jan 24, 2018 Nirmal Singh 2018-01-24 quite helpful tips to handle the teens tantrums * Support * * Report [75c034b15ad80dea041c7d2da22f9db8.jpg] [bword.png] | Oct 22, 2017 Sunanda Ahuja 2017-10-22 Thanks a ton for the tips .quiet useful * Support * * Report [be840d47e3646dce1016f197447684ac.jpg] [bword.png] | Aug 25, 2017 Monika Gera 2017-08-25 thank you for the tips. * Support * * Report [be840d47e3646dce1016f197447684ac.jpg] [bword.png] | Aug 25, 2017 Monika Gera 2017-08-25 thank you for the tips. * Support * * Report [133d5ae32b29508abbcb0321cf1ed55b.jpg] [bword.png] | Aug 18, 2017 Lalita P S 2017-08-18 wat an explanation dis made my heart light I felt simple things v make them complicated. true v have to leave them to make decisions. to make them more responsible thanks mam. * 1 * * Report [de3c0638a002fed8875fb6bb59dab679.jpg] [bword.png] | Aug 14, 2017 Meetali Bhardwaj 2017-08-14 it is all wonderfully explained by you.... I thoroughly enjoyed reading every bit of your suggestions and would surely follow the tips to handle my teenage child. * Support * * Report [fa968e7fb76a2bbb2540e240c2b5efef.jpg] [bword.png] | Aug 13, 2017 Kiran Pawa 2017-08-13 Thanks for the tips. When my kids throw tantrums I give them space to sulk.... and talk to them when their anger has abided and they are in a mood to listen. its not a sure shot formula but it works most of the time. * Support * * Report [ae458db7e80ba737bc9a9fee47890515.jpg] [bword.png] | Jul 29, 2017 Ishta 2017-07-29 very nice write-up. Though it is always difficult to deal with teens however a parent may train himself. Nevertheless it is a phase enjoy it. * Support * * Report [37cf674f9a7f2e92e08df167ef7427ec.jpg] [bword.png] | Jul 14, 2017 Sonia Chadha Khurana 2017-07-14 very helpful will follow it thanks * Support * * Report [de3c0638a002fed8875fb6bb59dab679.jpg] [bword.png] | Jul 02, 2017 Vidhi Gharat 2017-07-02 it was a very nice paragraph * Support * * Report [de3c0638a002fed8875fb6bb59dab679.jpg] [bword.png] | Jun 21, 2017 Psudharani 2017-06-21 iam really happy to choose the blog thanq * 1 * * Report [de3c0638a002fed8875fb6bb59dab679.jpg] [bword.png] | May 19, 2017 Alokeparna Das Roy 2017-05-19 very useful and relevant * Support * * Report [27f0d6820bdcc834a10effcb4f3ecd24.jpeg] [bword.png] | May 10, 2017 Canisha Kapoor 2017-05-10 I have not reached the teen stage but I am sure this will be really helpful in the coming years. thank you for the blog * Support * * Report [de3c0638a002fed8875fb6bb59dab679.jpg] [bword.png] | Apr 25, 2017 Neelam Kundani 2017-04-25 They are not conformable with any rule set by us. He dsnt want ti tKd enough sleep at night * Support * * Report [de3c0638a002fed8875fb6bb59dab679.jpg] [bword.png] | Apr 17, 2017 Dr Reena Gautam 2017-04-17 Nice article. It's really difficult to deal with teenagers, I feel the tough part is to keep ourselves calm when they don't listen. It's like I know I should not get angry but I can't control and then the clash begins. 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