#Step Two Designs Posts RSS feed Step Two Designs » Sources of CMS uncertainty Comments Feed Step Two Designs Information Architecture Essentials Dynamic or batch publishing? Choosing an intranet project sponsor Step Two Designs Beyond The Idea ____________________ Search Skip to content * Home * Blog * Our services * Books & reports * Intranets2011 * Events * About us * Contact Us Home > articles > content management > Sources of CMS uncertainty CMb 2004-01 Sources of CMS uncertainty Written by James Robertson, published January 12th, 2004 Categorised under: articles, content management Not all aspects of a content management system (CMS) project are equally easy. While some elements can be installed ‘out of the box’, others have proved difficult to implement. The greatest source of project risk is uncertainty, generated from a number of sources, such as a limited understanding of business requirements, variable product capabilities, or a poor track record of implementation. In the context of limited budgets and timetables, organisations must identify the most uncertain aspects of a CMS project, and concentrate management efforts on them. This makes the most effective use of available resources, reduces project risks, and maximises overall outcomes. The starting point for improving the management of CMS projects is to recognise the sources of uncertainty, and how these affect project outcomes. Future articles will then explore how best to manage these uncertainties. Sources of uncertainty Common sources of CMS uncertainty include: Difficulty in determining concrete business requirements It may be difficult to determine the detailed business requirements for specific CMS functionality within the scope of the evaluation process. This is often an issue when there are strong time constraints on the requirements gathering or selection process. Example: the need for ‘content reuse’ can often be difficult to discern in detail during a rapid requirements-gathering process. Unknown future business directions Insufficient information may be known about the strategic directions of the organisations to be confident that the CMS will meet future needs. This is a key issue in organisations that are undergoing rapid change or innovation. Example: the future need for e-commerce on the website might be related to a review of business activities that will not be completed until after the CMS has been selected. Widespread implementation difficulties Some aspects of content management systems have proved difficult to successfully implement in past projects, due to a range of reasons (only some of which may be technical in nature). Example: workflow is often stated as a primary reason for obtaining a content management system, yet many organisations are now ‘unrolling’ it due to failed deployments. Highly-variable product capabilities There is a large degree of variation between vendors in how specific features and capabilities have been implemented. With each approach having a unique mix of strengths and weaknesses, this can be a major cause of uncertainty during implementation. Example: many organisations need to integrate existing web-based applications into the CMS, so that a consistent page layout and formatting is applied across an entire site. Vendors, however, have tackled this issue using many different approaches, and not all will match the specific needs of the organisation. Complexity of requirements or implementation Some features and aspects of a content management system are very complex to identify or implement, and will remain so for the foreseeable future regardless of product upgrades. Example: integrating with other business systems is rarely simple or easy. People issues Content management is not a technology issue. While a content management system is typically deployed as part of the project, there are many supporting activities that have an equal (or greater) impact upon project success. Managing these ‘people issues’ introduces complexity into CMS projects, and broadens their scope. Example: decentralised authoring requires the active participation of authors to be successful. For a range of reasons, this has proved challenging in many projects, and is not always successful. (For further information regarding the evaluation and selection of a CMS, download the Content Management Requirements Toolkit.) Tags: content management systems, evaluation, selection, uncertainty Post a Comment Your email is never published nor shared. 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I spend a lot of time trying to consider a middle position–trying to understand various points of view on the topics that interest me. It seems unlikely that my own view might be the only one, or even the right one, so I have great respect for people who feel and think differently than I do. My interest lies in the elements of universal inspiration, not in what might simply be important to me. Yet once in a while an issue or event comes along that truly mystifies me, and I need to offer a point of view about it. Such is the tragedy in Arizona this week and our national response to it; in particular the response of our elected governmental officials. The attack on the Arizona Congress-woman and others in the shopping center was horrendous. The fact that she is a public official, of course, made it even riper for media to pounce on it as a story, and made it grist for everyone in Washington to express their outrage. I share that outrage. I pray for the recovery of the wounded, and I am dedicated to do what I can to prevent violent political expressions and/or ignoring the tragic signs of mental illness. However, there comes a time for perspective. How does this event stack up in terms of what is actually going on in the United States for ordinary people? Is the response of our government at all elitist? Does the fervor, reaction and commitment to ceremony of our elected representatives give testimony to their complete isolation from the ordinary people of the United States? I think so. These tragic murders have been followed by a joint resolution of Congress, the half-staff flying of the flag, and most telling, suggestions that the members of Congress get briefings on security, that they arrange for greater security at public events, and even to a proposal that we, the tax-payers, pay for personal security for them as we do the President and Vice-President. I live in Northern California. Just a few miles east of my home is an area known as “The Iron Triangle,” a place where the murder rate is the highest in California—where they celebrate if there are fewer than 100 homicides a year…that is roughly one every three days. Most of these crimes are committed by young black men; many of the killings are gang related, but not all. Most of the victims are also black and young, although not all. Oh….and most murders in this area are unsolved. The reports of these murders read like this: “Brian Broughton, 18, and his brother Ron Broughton, 19, were gunned down as they left their home at ……. or ” Joseph Martinez, 20, was shot to death as he exited his car in a shopping center parking lot.” In most cases, as with these two, there is the inevitable tag line, “No arrests have been made.” I’m sure Ms. Broughton and Ms. Martinez did not get a visit from the President, nor was there a resolution in Congress declaring the depth of this tragedy, nor were any flags flown at half-staff…anywhere. In fact, these boys were mourned by their friends, carefully and selectively, to avoid tempting the same fate. I’m equally sure that the City of Richmond, CA. would love to have its security forces beefed up, would like to provide a police officer to do extra patrols in the Broughton and Martinez neighborhood, and would welcome the funds to do extra neighborhood briefings on security. That’s not likely to happen anytime soon. You see, there is no money for that kind of recognition, ceremony, or security to be provided for ordinary citizens, and there is certainly no interest in any elected body, save the City of Richmond, to provide it. Ms. Broughton and Ms. Martinez have no power, and the city cannot print money. Yet the elitists whom we elect seem to think that their security is more important than ours. The urgency around protecting themselves is palpable, and yet they are elected and paid to serve us. They refer to the Arizona tragedy as an “act of terrorism.” I agree. How is the murder rate in cities, largely exacerbated by gang warfare, escaping that same label? More important, how is it escaping the same interest from these elected officials? Someone, somewhere, has to mention this gross oversight, less we miss the irony, less we fail to realize that Congress seems to exist and act solely for its own enrichment and survival. We should, of course, mourn this loss and the circumstances that allowed the Tucson tragedy to happen. But let’s not pretend that it is exceptional, and let’s not avoid challenging an elite group of “officials” because they don’t have the consciousness to take care of the people they supposedly serve, rather than just focusing on themselves. Just because it doesn’t happen in your neighborhood very often doesn’t mean it is rare. Wake up! * * del.icio.us * Google Buzz * RSS * Twitter * YahooBuzz * Technorati * StumbleUpon * Reddit * Print * Live * LinkedIn * Google * email IFRAME: http://www.facebook.com/plugins/like.php?&href=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.terrypearce.com%2Fwordpress%2F2011%2F01%2F12%2Finspiration%2Ftuscon-it-happens-every-day%2F&layout=standard&show_faces=1&width=&action=like&font=arial&colorscheme=light&height=80 Filed in Current Events, Inspiration, leadership | Tagged current events, empathy, tuscon, violence | Comments (0) *A Thanksgiving Tradition: Gratitude. Wednesday, November 24, 2010 The prayer below came to me through a dear friend several years ago. I believe it was adapted from an earlier rendition, but will give credit where I found it. My family and I have, from time to time, read this in little pieces around the dinner table on Thanksgiving, passing the paper from chair to chair, reading a stanza and then recovering before the next person picks it up. We do this to remind us of our incredibly good fortune at being born, to be born at this place in this time, and to remind us that most of the world can’t sit down and eat whenever and whatever they want. I wish you all the best Thanksgiving ever….and that would be one during which we actually have an experience of gratitude for life, for our loved ones, and for the incredible fortune that is bestowed on us through some unknown trick of fate. Prayer for the Children… by Ina J. Hughes We pray for the children who put chocolate fingers everywhere, who like to be tickled, who stomp in puddles and ruin their new pants, who sneak Popsicles before supper, who erase holes in math workbooks, who can never find their shoes. And we pray for those who stare at photographers from behind barbed wire, who’ve never squeaked across the floor in new sneakers, who never had crayons to count, who are born in places we wouldn’t be caught dead, who never go to the circus, who live in an X-rated world. We pray for children who bring us sticky kisses and fistfuls of dandelions, who sleep with the dog and bury goldfish, who give hugs in a hurry and forget their lunch money, who cover themselves with Band-Aids and sing off-key, who squeeze toothpaste all over the sink, who slurp their soup. And we pray for those who never get dessert, who watch their parents watch them die, who have no safe blanket to drag behind, who can’t find any bread to steal, who don’t have any rooms to clean up, whose pictures aren’t on anybody’s dresser, whose monsters are real. We pray for children who spend all their allowance before Tuesday, who throw tantrums in the grocery store and pick at their food, who like ghost stories, who shove dirty clothes under the bed, who never rinse out the tub, who get visits from the tooth fairy, who don’t like to be kissed in front of the school, who squirm in church or temple or mosque and scream in the phone, whose tears we sometimes laugh at and whose smiles can make us cry. And we pray for those whose nightmares come in the daytime, who will eat anything, who aren’t spoiled by anybody, who go to bed hungry and cry themselves to sleep, who live and move, but have no being. We pray for children who want to be carried, and for those who must. For those we never give up on, and for those who never get a chance. For those we smother with our love, and for those who will grab the hand of anybody kind enough to offer it. many, many blessings, Terry Pearce, 2010 * * del.icio.us * Google Buzz * RSS * Twitter * YahooBuzz * Technorati * StumbleUpon * Reddit * Print * Live * LinkedIn * Google * email IFRAME: http://www.facebook.com/plugins/like.php?&href=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.terrypearce.com%2Fwordpress%2F2010%2F11%2F24%2Finspiration%2Fa-thanksgiving-tradition-gratitude%2F&layout=standard&show_faces=1&width=&action=like&font=arial&colorscheme=light&height=80 Filed in Current Events, Inspiration | Tagged grateful living, Inspiration, Thanksgiving | Comments (0) Jodi Pearce Wilson Ehrlicher, May 19,1976–Dec. 5,2007 Tuesday, September 21, 2010 Jodi Pearce Wilson Ehrlicher died at the age of 31 of a cerebral hemorrhage, apparently caused by a congenital defect inside the ventricle of the brain. She was the healthiest person I knew. She was more than my daughter, she was a wonderful friend, devoted to everyone in her family, especially to her husband and two small kids. During the 2 ½ years since her passing I’ve learned the difference between grieving and letting go. The former may be a pre-requisite to the latter, but letting go, regardless of the amount of grieving, feels like jumping from a very high cliff, not knowing whether I will learn to fly again. But this morning, at 6 A.M. her two brothers and I sprinkled a few of her ashes on some sacred ground at a lake in Northern California. We deposited a small cloisonné butterfly pin in a family cache, set out a heart of sunflowers in the meadow, floated a wreath on the pristine water, and read some words of completion. Of course we will never forget her, nor will we stop loving her. But we have entered into a much more dynamic and active relationship with her fearless spirit. I have a feeling we gave her permission to do the same with us….and we’ll be loving, and listening. sunrise-at-btc sunflowers-and-rock1 jodi-wreath-21 Do not stand At my grave and weep. I am not there I do not sleep. I am a thousand Winds that blow. I am the Diamond Glints on snow. I am the sun 0n ripened grain I am the gentle Autumn Rain. When you awake In the morning hush, I am the swift uplifting rush of quiet birds in circled flight… I am the stars that blink at night. I am the mystery you know Inside your hearts The inner glow… The wisdom that our world imparts When tears of loss begin to flow….. So do not stand At my grave And cry, I am not there, I did not die. Hopi–Unknown Origin. * * del.icio.us * Google Buzz * RSS * Twitter * YahooBuzz * Technorati * StumbleUpon * Reddit * Print * Live * LinkedIn * Google * email IFRAME: http://www.facebook.com/plugins/like.php?&href=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.terrypearce.com%2Fwordpress%2F2010%2F09%2F21%2Finspiration%2Fin-memoriam-jodi-pearce-wilson-ehrlicher-may-191976-dec-52007%2F&layout=standard&show_faces=1&width=&action=like&font=arial&colorscheme=light&height=80 Filed in Inspiration | Tagged death, family, Jodi, memorials | Comments (2) * Jeter and Bush. Two Different Views. Saturday, September 18, 2010 jeter This blog looks for examples in life that trigger inspiration, particularly for stories of character….traits displayed by one person that can inspire another, or perhaps even groups of others. Every day the news presents us with examples, good and bad, of public figures who act in ways that others can observe, and we have the opportunity to observe their relative value in the world of inspiration. This blog has featured many such examples, most recently one involving basketball star Lebron James (see below). Now we have two more examples from the wide world of sports, ironically presented on the same day. On that day, in New York City, Derek Jeter was lying to an umpire about getting hit by a foul ball. As a result, he was awarded first base—thankfully his team went on to lose the game. Afterward, Jeter, the Yankee captain, certain future hall-of-famer and role model to hundreds of thousands of young little leaguers was asked by a reporter if the ball had hit him. “No,” he said, despite the fact that he writhed in pain, asked the trainer to attend to him, and shook his arm all the way to first base. “Was it just acting?” asked the reporter. “Yes, a little bit,” offered Jeter with a smile. “What did you expect me to do? The umpire told me to take first base.” The next day, sports bloggers wrote in near consistency, “Yep, that’s baseball, and that’s life. You take what you can get.” bush Meanwhile, the same evening, on the southern coast of the United States, in New Orleans, Reggie Bush, running back/receiver for the New Orleans Saints, was giving back his Heisman Trophy to the Heisman Trust. The award itself was stripped from Bush because he accepted money and/or merchandise from agents and alumni in violation of NCAA rules. He admits that he did that, but also says that he didn’t know at the time it was a violation. He himself does not face any criminal charges and is outside of the jurisdiction of the NCAA itself. The Heisman Trust had not asked him to return the statue itself. “My minister was the only person who agreed with me, “said Bush. “Even my parents wanted me to keep it. But I’m the one who has to live with my decision, not them, and I think it is more in keeping with my beliefs to give it back.” Jeter’s question just might be the right one (although he thought the answer was obvious). ”What did you expect me to do?” So which one works for you? * * del.icio.us * Google Buzz * RSS * Twitter * YahooBuzz * Technorati * StumbleUpon * Reddit * Print * Live * LinkedIn * Google * email IFRAME: http://www.facebook.com/plugins/like.php?&href=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.terrypearce.com%2Fwordpress%2F2010%2F09%2F18%2Finspirational_people%2Fjeter-and-bush-two-different-views%2F&layout=standard&show_faces=1&width=&action=like&font=arial&colorscheme=light&height=80 Filed in Inspirational People | Tagged bush, inspire others, integrity, Jeter, sports | Comments (0) * Lebron II…What’s Best for the Family. Monday, July 26, 2010 cash-wad So Lebron: What you did was no different from what bankers do when they look for ways to get around regulations rather than looking for ways to help people and make a profit doing it. At some point, we need to ask the questions, “What’s rich”, and “what’s enough?” That second question doesn’t get asked much in your field, or in the upper echelons of the financially successful. It seems from your television comments and your later “tweets” to your minions of disciples, that you made this decision based on “what was best for your family,” and that “what’s best” involves money and championships. Certainly if your family were living in the projects, or unable to feed themselves, then money would be a priority. As Gandhi said, “Some people can only see God in a loaf of bread.” But that is hardly the case with you. And, as I understand it, the money was the same regardless of where you decided to play. So let’s explore another set of values, just for fun. Imagine giving these comments, Lebron. They could have taken up the first fifteen minutes of your “special.” “I’ve given a lot of thought and received a lot of advice about where I should be going, who I should be playing basketball with, and how much money I should make. I appreciate everyone’s time and energy, and I certainly respect different points of view. In the final analysis, I have to do what is best for my family. For me, the decision really wasn’t very hard. After all, I grew up with a supportive mom, good friends and great coaches. Without this community, I could have ended up in some pretty awful places. The people of Akron and Cleveland have provided the base support for me having all of this unbelievable wealth. I have to pinch myself just to remember that it is really me. Basketball is just a game. But when anyone is as blessed with special gifts, we have a responsibility to use them wisely, to try to lift others up just as they have lifted me. Most people in this community haven’t enjoyed the same opportunity that I’ve had. Many people who work for a living worry day to day about their livelihood, putting their kids through school and keeping food on the table. Still, some of them come to the arena to watch a very special team play a game. Others might never be able to come, but will watch us on television or listen on the radio. For the past seven years, and particularly the past three, I like to think that the Cavaliers have provided a bright spot in this area, and I’ve been proud to be a part of it. Now, I would like to win some championships, and I know this team plans to do just that. Hopefully, when we do, we will celebrate together and then do it again. This community deserves it. Many athletes play just for the money, or just for the glory…I love that part as well. But opportunities like this are rare. If I can actually make a difference in the greater community, then I have really been blessed. I can’t imagine that any decision could be any better for my family than staying right here, pitching in, making a difference where we can. If my family can learn the value of community, then I will have succeeded in raising them well. I look forward to the next seven years, and to seeing you all out at the arena.” Inspired yet? Words like these bring out other words like “character,” and “class,” and “perspective.” I think such words make a much better basis for teaching your family what’s best. But hey, that’s just me. You can try again in seven years. * * del.icio.us * Google Buzz * RSS * Twitter * YahooBuzz * Technorati * StumbleUpon * Reddit * Print * Live * LinkedIn * Google * email IFRAME: http://www.facebook.com/plugins/like.php?&href=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.terrypearce.com%2Fwordpress%2F2010%2F07%2F26%2Finspirational_people%2Flebron-iiwhats-best-for-the-family%2F&layout=standard&show_faces=1&width=&action=like&font=arial&colorscheme=light&height=80 Filed in Inspirational People | Tagged community, Inspiration, Lebron, money, sports, values | Comments (0) * Jesse James More Inspiring Than Lebron? Saturday, July 10, 2010 jesse-james1 lebron1 There is so much to be learned from the Lebron James phenomenon. Since my world is the world of inspiration, Lebron James is to me as many politicians are to cartoonists, “the gift that keeps on giving.” It’s hard not to digress, expand or hyperbolize. It is difficult to avoid following all of the paths Lebron has offered at once….and make the classic Stephen Leacock mistake, to “ride off in all directions,” thereby splitting horse, rider and metaphor. But I’ll saddle up and try to pick my way—carefully—up the trail of inspiration. Today’s notes are strictly contextual…later this week, I’ll really get serious! We have here a 25-year-old basketball player, previously of modest means who is now a multi-millionaire. He was raised in Cleveland, Ohio by his mother and is now without adult supervision. He has matured physically beyond any gladiator comparison. He has been the symbol and performance leader of his NBA basketball team for seven years, in a city besieged by the recession, by the movement of manufacturing jobs and by a demoralized and devalued populace. Certainly Cleveland is not Detroit, but neither is it Shanghai. It is in the process of re-invention, of re-building industrially, in its infrastructure, and certainly psychically—not unlike the United States as a whole. Cleveland has an unemployment rate of just north of 17%. Inspiration is hard to come by. With James leading the way on the court, The Cleveland Cavaliers have won more basketball games during the regular season than any other team for the past two seasons, but even with James’ considerable talent, they have not be able to reach the finals of the NBA playoffs. James reached the end of his first contract and became a free agent…meaning that this time, the choice of where he is to play is totally his—it is not dictated by a pre-determined draft. He is free to make an unrestricted choice—to show his character. Now I simply have to digress, because everyone who reads this blog doesn’t follow professional basketball. But to many citizens of many cities, professional sports teams are a symbol of success in the masculine (not necessarily male) world of competition—a world that largely currently defines America. So when personal jobs are lost, when personal failure drags the day-to-day world into a psychological sink-hole, the game is still on, and your team can vindicate your day, if not your year. If they win, you win. You face your own failures and your own difficult times with a little more courage. There is something positive to talk about at the unemployment office, in the bar or even at the book club. Stick with me here. James not only decides to leave Cleveland, but he makes two other proclamations, one by format, and the other by rhetoric. He takes an hour of prime-time television to tell the city that worshipped him that he is leaving. Then he pours heavy astringent on that gaping wound by telling these citizens that it is because he, Lebron, wants to win championships, and that it can’t be done in Cleveland. Doesn’t that remind you of all of the heroes and heroines that we cherish? Doesn’t it bring forth memories of Sadat, Mandela, King and Kennedy? In the world of sports, does it not call up the words of Lou Gehrig, dying of ALS and declaring that he considered himself “the luckiest person on the face of the earth?” Isn’t Lebron’s gratitude and sense of awe staggering? Isn’t he a great model for your children? I’m sure some of you are railing right now about those “unfair” comparisons, about Lebron’s right to do what he wants, to make as much money as he can, and to join his two friends to come out of the smoke in Miami to the adoration of fans who now have the most expensive team that money can buy. After all, it’s the American Way. Or is it? I think not. I think the real American Way is much different from this clown circus. I think this is just the latest in a multi-year and multi-institutional series of miss-guided and shallow decisions made by people without thought about what a human being really is or whether the blessings of freedom and prosperity carry burdens of responsibility. At least in mythology, Jesse James was a bit of a folk hero, a Western American Robin Hood. He was a theif, but he had a bond with the reality of those who were not rich, who needed a spokesman., who needed the story of him as one of them. And, he knew he was a theif. Lebron James is only 25 years old and must be advised by idiots…certainly his personal culpability can be mitigated by his physical youth…he could still grow into a man. There are others who have made the same move much older, and much more consciously. Inspired yet? More later this week * * del.icio.us * Google Buzz * RSS * Twitter * YahooBuzz * Technorati * StumbleUpon * Reddit * Print * Live * LinkedIn * Google * email IFRAME: http://www.facebook.com/plugins/like.php?&href=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.terrypearce.com%2Fwordpress%2F2010%2F07%2F10%2Finspiration%2Fjesse-james-more-inspiring-than-lebron%2F&layout=standard&show_faces=1&width=&action=like&font=arial&colorscheme=light&height=80 Filed in Current Events, Inspiration, Inspirational People | Tagged Inspiration, inspire others, Lebron, sports | Comments (0) * The Ultimate Sacrifice. Thursday, April 29, 2010 jeff-in-tutuc1 After the shameless commerce of yesterday’s post, I’m paying you back with levity. Note the picture…the man in the dress is my son, who brashly bragged that his under-12 girls softball team could flawlessly execute a suicide squeeze. Hearing the taunts from his fellow coaches, he compounded his mistake by agreeing, somehow, that if they did it, he would wear a dress to the next game. “The Gators,” as they are called, pulled it off in the third inning of last Saturday’s game in Sonoma, California. The press immediately sent a contingent (not much going on in Sonoma) and took enough pictures to keep my son from running for office in this lifetime. I publish one here because our little company, Leadership Communication, sponsors the team….or did. I’m sure they are considering a name change and some other significant adjustments in their approach. My son, in the meantime, is going to be on the cover of a magazine touting tutus, “for the man confident enough to be a woman.” He was born only 15 years too late to be Ms. Doubtfire. Perhaps in the sequel. * * del.icio.us * Google Buzz * RSS * Twitter * YahooBuzz * Technorati * StumbleUpon * Reddit * Print * Live * LinkedIn * Google * email IFRAME: http://www.facebook.com/plugins/like.php?&href=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.terrypearce.com%2Fwordpress%2F2010%2F04%2F29%2Finspirational_people%2Fthe-ultimate-sacrifice%2F&layout=standard&show_faces=1&width=&action=like&font=arial&colorscheme=light&height=80 Filed in Current Events, Inspirational People, Leadership Communication | Tagged baseball, jeff, tutu | Comments (0) * Shameless Commerce…Leadership Communication Wednesday, April 28, 2010 commerce4261 Those interested in “Leadership Communication—that which inspires others to take action to effect change,” might find the video clips available on my “Leadership Communication” page valuable. These are responses to questions about this subject, put to me by an excellent collaborator, Fraser Marlow of Blessing White. Look through them as you please and send additions and comments to this blog. Thanks! Terry * * del.icio.us * Google Buzz * RSS * Twitter * YahooBuzz * Technorati * StumbleUpon * Reddit * Print * Live * LinkedIn * Google * email IFRAME: http://www.facebook.com/plugins/like.php?&href=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.terrypearce.com%2Fwordpress%2F2010%2F04%2F28%2Finspiration%2Fshameless-commerceleadership-communication%2F&layout=standard&show_faces=1&width=&action=like&font=arial&colorscheme=light&height=80 Filed in Inspiration, Leadership Communication, leadership | Tagged shameless commerce | Comments (0) * The Olympics or Congress? Let’s see…….. Thursday, February 18, 2010 This blog writer has been “silent” for a while, not for lack of material—God knows the drama of the Winter Olympics and the soap opera in the U.S Congress provide plenty of grist. (Could there be any two venues that provide a more perfect thesis and antithesis of inspiration?) Rather I have been busy generating a dissertation on the topic of inspiration; in particular the kind of inspiration that is transmitted from one human being to another. Not through poetry, music, nature or spiritual experience, although these are certainly valid and effective means. Rather I’m interested in what gives one human being the capacity to inspire others to be better and bigger than they are, to reach a greater community, to build a legacy, or just to proactively find an opportunity to serve. It isn’t clear to me at all what generates that capacity to inspire. But in my ramblings, I did run into a philosopher, Ralph Ellis, who has written extensively on the subject. For those who like the abstractions, see “Love, Religion, and the Psychology of Inspiration,” in the Journal “Philosophy in the Contemporary World” 15:2 (Fall 2008). In the opening, Ellis states clearly that inspiration is “a fundamental emotional need, not merely as a derivative, optional feeling.” He then asserts that a lack of this basic emotion “results in depression.” There are many ideas in Dr. Ellis’ article that I find preachy and flawed, but these assertions are not among them. Who can avoid being internally excited by a young woman bruising her shin to the point of not being able to walk, and then re-generating herself to win a Gold Medal in the riskiest and most stressful of the alpine sports, the women’s downhill? Who can not be touched to the core by the commitment of the young luge driver who died in pursuit of his dream? And who can help but be depressed at the lack of human capacity in our elected officials to think of anything other than their self-interest, their need to get elected again, and thereby avoid dealing with the real and sizeable problems of our Union? Yesterday I ran across the newspapers I saved on Election Day of 2008, and on Inauguration Day in January of 2009. However we voted, we were instilled with a sense of hope and the potential for a new sense of contribution. For some, the feeling was a begrudging acknowledgement of the need for new beginnings. Now, according to the pundits and polls, people in our country are disillusioned—only a memory of those heady and heartfelt days remains. The rhetoric of bi-partisanship has turned out to be only rhetoric…those who could have been heroes and heroines are nothing more than pretenders. You’re right, Dr. Ellis. I’m depressed. Thank God for the Olympics. * * del.icio.us * Google Buzz * RSS * Twitter * YahooBuzz * Technorati * StumbleUpon * Reddit * Print * Live * LinkedIn * Google * email IFRAME: http://www.facebook.com/plugins/like.php?&href=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.terrypearce.com%2Fwordpress%2F2010%2F02%2F18%2Finspiration%2Fthe-olympics-or-congress-lets-see%2F&layout=standard&show_faces=1&width=&action=like&font=arial&colorscheme=light&height=80 Filed in Inspiration | Tagged congress, depression, hope, Olympics | Comments (0) * Invictus–Explicit Myth–The Movie and the Men Monday, January 11, 2010 mandela Invictus, composed in the 19th-century by William Ernest Henley, is now best known as the poem that inspired Nelson Mandela throughout his more than 26-year stay in prison. In the 2009 popular movie that shares the poem’s name, Mandela, President of an emerging South Africa, is seen in flashback reading the poem as it describes his circumstances and reveals the door for his psychological (perhaps spiritual) escape from the horrors of being imprisoned by forces beyond his control. The same could be said of Henley himself—he wrote the work over time, each successive edition occasioned by an act of fate which threatened to overwhelm him. First an illness, then an amputation, then further hospitalization: Out of the night that covers me, Black as the Pit from pole to pole, I thank whatever gods may be For my unconquerable soul. In the fell clutch of circumstance I have not winced nor cried aloud. Under the bludgeoning of chance My head is bloody, but unbowed. Beyond this place of wrath and tears Looms but the Horror of the shade, And yet the menace of the years Finds, and shall find, me unafraid. It matters not how strait the gate, How charged with punishments the scroll. I am the master of my fate: I am the captain of my soul. Most who have seen the movie have been inspired by one or more of Mandela’s characteristics—his ability to forgive, his focus on the greater good, or his steadfast and consistent personal dedication to avoid repaying long-standing apartheid with White discrimination. Mandela’s courage is mirrored by his protégé in affairs of leadership, Francois Pienaar, captain of the nearly-all-white National Rugby Club, The South African Springboks. During the movie, and in real life, Pienaar was transformed by Mandela’s presence and generosity of spirit. When the two first meet, they actually addressed the question of “What does a leader do to inspire those he leads?” While Mandela leads Pienaar through the possibilities from music to speeches, he carefully impresses him with his own action, his own selfless commitment to a cause bigger than himself. Mandela’s aim is to inspire Pienaar to win the Rugby World Cup for his newly democratic nation. The tension builds until the unlikely and ironic final match between the former white-separatist Springboks and the perennial champion “All-Blacks” from New Zealand. So the real-life symbolic battles–Black against White–Segregated against Integrated–are joined, on the field and in the nation. It turns on inspiration. Unlike today’s professional athletes, the South Africans aren’t moved to victory by a million dollar bonus. Rather it is Pienaar’s words that mirror the subjective interior passion of his charges “This is our destiny!” he shouts to his bloodied troops. Invictus is a myth that was played out in real life. As in the sinking of the Titanic, the gods made sure we understand by explicitly naming the symbols. A rousing success, not just because of the acting, but because the story rings of what matters—to all of us. * * del.icio.us * Google Buzz * RSS * Twitter * YahooBuzz * Technorati * StumbleUpon * Reddit * Print * Live * LinkedIn * Google * email IFRAME: http://www.facebook.com/plugins/like.php?&href=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.terrypearce.com%2Fwordpress%2F2010%2F01%2F11%2Fmovie-reviews%2Finvictus-implicit-myth-the-movie-and-the-men%2F&layout=standard&show_faces=1&width=&action=like&font=arial&colorscheme=light&height=80 Filed in Movie Reviews | Tagged cross-cultural inspiration, Henley, incentives, inspirational, Invictus, Mandela, meaning, movies, mythology, Poetry, sports | Comments (1) * The Courage to Think, to Speak, and to Lead. Wednesday, December 2, 2009 scales8001 Two speakers have impressed me in the last two days. On Monday night, I went to hear Laura Tyson, Berkeley Professor and advisor to the Obama White House, speak about the economy. In wonderfully understandable language, Dr. Tyson explained to a packed auditorium the current state of the economy, and outlined the central worrying points for the future. Most impressive to me was her commentary that the primary cause of future deficit growth and credit squeeze in the United States is not the immediate crisis, but is rather our “structural deficit,” the built-in conditions that were present before the crisis and which will outlive it—the fact that most of our budget is made up of commitments which we have built into current law….defense, entitlements and interest on the national debt. These three comprise something in excess of 70% of our spending and cannot be reversed without structural sacrifice. Dr. Tyson was not optimistic about our ability to solve this problem, primarily because, as she put it, there is no bi-partisanship in our national government. Because we are so polarized on the right and left, neither side will compromise, and the ultimate result of that condition is a continuation of the status-quo, a condition that will most certainly sink our ship of state. Her solution: A small bipartisan group of congress to fashion a plan that will cost everyone something, but which will allow us the flexibility to escape from certain economic catastrophe within the next twenty years. This group’s plan would then be put to a vote by congress…up or down, and the problem could be solved or at least mitigated. Again, she was not hopeful that this format would be adopted. On Tuesday night, President Obama outlined his plan for Afghanistan—an escalation with a deadline—a plan he believes can succeed without burying the United States in yet another quagmire of seemingly endless war on foreign soil. Predictably, and in the form presaged by Dr. Tyson, both the right and the left immediately attacked the plan. There was no bipartisanship in the response, no expression of appreciation for the President’s pain-staking process, his effort to create a shared context for the decision or his obvious wish that such a decision did not have to be taken at all. Consciously sending people to their deaths is a nearly unbearable burden, yet he courageously, with a perspective of the ages, ordered our nation and our military to pay that price. I was inspired by both of these folks. Whether we agree with the specifics or not, we can respect the courage it takes to tell people the truth and to step up with a plan to solve a devastating problem—it is what leadership is made of. Who among us reading this blog would step into the President’s shoes? Or who would have the courage to suggest that we are spending ourselves into oblivion and then advocate a plan to end it, knowing full well that “both sides” would open fire with full loads of ammo manufactured by their own partisan point of view? This is a time for inspiration, a time for us to grasp something larger than ourselves or our individual interest. Our values as a nation are worth our support, and definitely worth giving up some pieces of our own opinions to support those we have entrusted with our destiny. * * del.icio.us * Google Buzz * RSS * Twitter * YahooBuzz * Technorati * StumbleUpon * Reddit * Print * Live * LinkedIn * Google * email IFRAME: http://www.facebook.com/plugins/like.php?&href=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.terrypearce.com%2Fwordpress%2F2009%2F12%2F02%2Finspiration%2Fthe-courage-to-think-to-speak-and-to-lead%2F&layout=standard&show_faces=1&width=&action=like&font=arial&colorscheme=light&height=80 Filed in Current Events, Inspiration, Inspirational People | Tagged Barack Obama, economics, inspirational, leadership, public affairs, the future | Comments (1) * As Always, Courageous Action Inspires Tuesday, November 10, 2009 superstock_1555r-309664 Courageous action always speaks volumes, but it is particularly loud when it is in pursuit of dreams, or when it comes from a desire to serve, to create meaning for others. Christy Tonge (member of the Forum on Cross-Cultural Inspiration) and her husband Barry have always been involved in the development of youth, particularly under-served youth, in the Bay Area. They have two children of their own, 8 and 11, and both parents have active and successful business careers. But their aim has always been to apportion their time and effort to not only meet their own economic needs but also to use their substantial talents to personally help others. This year, they raised their own very high bar. After officially founding the “Reach Potential Movement”, a non-profit that will institutionalize their effort, they decided that the work of inspiring kids was a contact sport. They leased their own home in Mountain View and moved to a small apartment in the neighborhood where the kids they hoped to inspire actually live. Here is Christy’s own reflection on the decision: “To better understand the culture and experience of the vulnerable kids and families Reach Potential aims to serve, and to better foster neighborhood outreach, our family made the decision to rent our home and move across town to a low income apartment complex in Mountain View. After finding a home for our pets, and goodbyes to our big backyard, trampoline and other comforts, we headed for our new neighborhood. It was with excitement and nervousness that our family took the leap. We landed at apartment #56 on the other side of our packing and moving tasks (with wonderful help from friends, family and RP supporters) to begin life in our new neighborhood. In my first week as I struggled to converse in Spanish with a neighbor in the laundry facility as we did wash together, I remember thinking, ‘What have we done??…This is hard!’ ‘Will we be able to build relationships here like we’d hoped?’ Though there have been many adjustments for my kids and for my husband Barry and I, we are so very glad that we are here. It is stretching us, giving us new eyes to see…and opening doors for relationships and for Reach Potential outreach that we could not have had otherwise. We are eager to see what the months ahead hold, and certain that we will learn a lot in the process.” Barry, Christy and their partners in this venture are showing the way with what counts the most. Words are great, but action is far, far better–it speaks with our common tongue. Who we are always gets reflected in what we actually do with our lives…and in this case, it’s inspiring. Like Sadat, Mandela, King, Luther and the others that we all know, these folks have come to play. To read more about this project, and to find out how to support them, see the “News from Friends” section of this blog. * * del.icio.us * Google Buzz * RSS * Twitter * YahooBuzz * Technorati * StumbleUpon * Reddit * Print * Live * LinkedIn * Google * email IFRAME: http://www.facebook.com/plugins/like.php?&href=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.terrypearce.com%2Fwordpress%2F2009%2F11%2F10%2Finspirational_people%2Fas-always-courageous-action-inspires%2F&layout=standard&show_faces=1&width=&action=like&font=arial&colorscheme=light&height=80 Filed in Current Events, Inspirational People | Tagged Action, Christy Tonge, Forum member, Friends, Hispanic, inspirational, Reach Potential, Social Action | Comments (0) * Inspiration: Imagination in World Affairs Friday, October 30, 2009 exclamationpoint1 The 9-11 commission report rang with one phrase that seemed to sum up our lack of foresight into the possibility of an attack against our country–”Failure of Imagination.” The same phrase was used by President Obama when he gave his first speech about the possibility of a world without nuclear weapons. He suggested that while we did not want to be naive, neither did we want to fall short because of a ”failure of imagination.” I’m steadily moving toward a conclusion that inspiration and imagination are inexorably linked. To be able to see a future that is unlikely, or that would not be seen from available evidence…this capability seems to be necessary to the ability to inspire others. This week, I received the following note from one of the Forum Participants, Zaman Stanizai. Dr. Stanizai is a native of Afghanistan, and sees the war there from a different perspective from most. He wrote the following: “Dear Friends, Many solutions have been offered to solve the Afghan war. Here is mine. I know that it is out of the mainstream of today’s political thought, and as a friend commented on it, “It is a great plan, but nobody will act upon it because it makes too much sense.” This reminded me of an old debate in which Sheikh Qunawi asked Rumi: “I wonder how you turn complex philosophic terminologies into simple language.” Rumi replied: “I wonder why must you turn such simple ideas into sophisticated incomprehensive expressions.” I am offering an alternative, in its simplicity, to the various military options currently under consideration by the Obama Administration for Afghanistan. I am proposing a Peace Option. A peace option that has not been given any consideration so far and it probably won’t see the light of day unless we give it momentum by making it a part of the media debate if not the White House debate. I have an extensive peace alternative in works that can help us win through peace in Afghanistan without losing the war. A condensed version of that plan appears in ArticlesBase.com under the title: ‘How to Win Peace in Afghanistan For Half the Price of War.’ Your comments on the article on the website can contribute to an effort in saving humanity in some of us. You may also want to forward it to friends and those affiliated with the media so that at least the thought of peace can get some notoriety and this ‘unconsidered alternative’ is given some consideration. You could google the article under Zaman Stanizai or go to the ArticlesBase.com . Here is the link: http://www.articlesbase.com/politics-articles/winning-through-peace-in-afghanistan-for-half-the-price-of-war-1376781.html. Yours in peace, Zaman Stanizai” I found his views refreshing and coming from a totally different perspective from the norm….and probably doable. But the fact that he sees such a solution in his imagination, not bleary-eyed but practical, is inspiring. If you wish, look at the article and connect with him directly at zstanizai@aol.com. * * del.icio.us * Google Buzz * RSS * Twitter * YahooBuzz * Technorati * StumbleUpon * Reddit * Print * Live * LinkedIn * Google * email IFRAME: http://www.facebook.com/plugins/like.php?&href=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.terrypearce.com%2Fwordpress%2F2009%2F10%2F30%2Finspiration%2F448%2F&layout=standard&show_faces=1&width=&action=like&font=arial&colorscheme=light&height=80 Filed in Current Events, Inspiration | Tagged Afghanistan, imagination, inspirational, Pacific Graduate Institute, peace, stanizai, world affairs | Comments (0) * Inspired by John Muir: Inspired by Nature Friday, October 9, 2009 John Muir was once called the “Father of National Parks,”— most Americans and millions from other countries enjoy his legacy when they step into one of the pristine natural wonders preserved through the power of his exploration and writing. This film clip is a short introduction for a ninety minute documentary being produced by Global Village Media. Watch the clip and then consider the questions below. http://www.terrypearce.com/cci-wp/wp-content/video/john_muir_small.flv What inspired you about this film? Was it nature, was it the film, or was it Muir? More about this on the next post. (Global Village Media was founded by Dominique Lasseur and Catherine Tatge, both members of the Forum on Cross-Cultural Inspiration. For more about their current work, see the “News from Friends” section of this blog.) * * del.icio.us * Google Buzz * RSS * Twitter * YahooBuzz * Technorati * StumbleUpon * Reddit * Print * Live * LinkedIn * Google * email IFRAME: http://www.facebook.com/plugins/like.php?&href=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.terrypearce.com%2Fwordpress%2F2009%2F10%2F09%2Finspirational_people%2Finspired-by-john-muir-inspired-by-nature%2F&layout=standard&show_faces=1&width=&action=like&font=arial&colorscheme=light&height=80 Filed in Inspirational People | Tagged John Muir, nature, video | Comments (1) * When Was the Last Time You Were Inspired? Friday, October 2, 2009 patient-lady2c1 Last week, I became a bit irritated by the conversation around a conference table of twenty-five business operators. The talk was all about numbers, strategy and organization charts. Not one person mentioned that all of the plans they were cooking up had to be executed by real human beings. This is a great company, but like most companies, its officers focus on the “what” and the “how” rather than the “why.” I finally entered the discussion, and suggested that they were in great businesses that made a difference in the world, and that to remind their thousands of employees about that difference might contribute to some “inspired” action in the market. There was general silence at that suggestion except for a solid comment by one senior executive at the table: “Everyone wants to be inspired.” This seems true, at least for those who have had the experience at least once. And to confirm its validity, I often ask the question in the headline of this post, “When was the last time you were inspired?” The responses nearly always inspire me. This week, in a group of fifty, there were only five answers. Two were stories about women over the age of 100 who continued to really “live”—an aunt who reportedly got out of her car and removed a tree branch from the road with a chain saw, demanding that others “stay in the car and keep our of her way.” (Feisty old girl!) Another was similar; a lady who still volunteered at the local school reading to kindergarten kids….she was also a centenarian. Still other stories involve the aesthetic: music, art, nature—a particular sunset, a realization when looking at stars in a black sky from a meadow—in short, having the experience of awe in the face of a universe that is unexplainable. Another from a young father—watching his three-year-old get a cookie from the top of the refrigerator by stacking books on a chair so that he could reach high enough to grasp the prize. On Monday, September 29, Beliefnet published twenty-one ways to be inspired. Some involved nature—watch a sunset or take a walk near a waterfall—while others involved expressions of gratitude or love. Still others suggested solitude—read a book, listen to music. Yet, even these actions which seem on target, require something other than the “what” to hit the mark. They all require a certain presence, an openness, a sense of wonder. It seems that even when you are doing the right thing, your internal space has to have room for inspiration to enter. As I start now to write a dissertation on this subject, I come back to one of the earliest entries in this blog of February 10, “What is Inspiration?” * * del.icio.us * Google Buzz * RSS * Twitter * YahooBuzz * Technorati * StumbleUpon * Reddit * Print * Live * LinkedIn * Google * email IFRAME: http://www.facebook.com/plugins/like.php?&href=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.terrypearce.com%2Fwordpress%2F2009%2F10%2F02%2Finspiration%2Fwhen-was-the-last-time-you-were-inspired%2F&layout=standard&show_faces=1&width=&action=like&font=arial&colorscheme=light&height=80 Filed in Inspiration | Tagged aesthetic, Inspiration, internal space, music, nature | Comments (2) * Jung’s Shadow: Publication of “The Red Book” Tuesday, September 22, 2009 toward-larcona2c There is little question that Carl Gustav Jung spent his professional and personal life in search of inspiration, not only for himself, but for those he treated and taught. We are about to see a representation of the source of much of what he learned and transmitted to others. I just spent a week on the shore of Lago Magoirre in Southern Switzerland/Northern Italy, (see photo) in a workshop on “Writing as Ritual” sponsored by Pacifica Graduate Institute at Eranos. This residence/small conference center is being refurbished to re-capture its place as a pre-eminent European location for the exchange of ideas. In the first half of the twentieth century, Eranos was a haven for Carl Jung and his intellectual equals from all over the world. I had begun reading Deirdre Bair’s biography of Jung two weeks before the trip. This is the most carefully researched account of the man’s life, and enjoys substantial credibility in the Jungian community, even as the family had second thoughts about its publication. Jung was a complex individual (he would have enjoyed the pun), and having studied him now for three years, I feel like I have barely scratched the surface of his intellect, much less touched the depth of his more intuitive and experiential observations of the psyche. Jung did his own biographical sketch, (Memories, Dreams, Reflections) but not until he was 81 years old. By his account, (and I think Bair would concur) the years just after his break with Sigmund Freud were the most significant of his life. During this particularly difficult time, Jung traveled experientially into his own psyche to find more about the working and content of the unconscious. While he has written about that experience retrospectively, his real-time experience was recorded in a volume simply called The Red Book. Jung was wary of releasing the actual content of the book for fear of being thought a mad-man, of having his theories attacked on the basis of his own psychosis. When I returned home to San Francisco, I found the cover of the New York Times Magazine (September 20, 2009) featuring Jung and the impending publication of an English translation of The Red Book. Apparently the family has decided that it would come out piece-meal anyway, and opted to enjoy the financial reward of a full-blown re-creation and translation. What can we expect? I’m guessing it is the unabashed and colorful record of fantasy in its true sense, the connection between a person and the myriad of images and symbols that reside in us somewhere, without defining a space but claiming a pre-eminent influence on our thoughts and behaviors. Jung, unlike Freud, was interested in neuroses, psychoses, dreams and fantasies as portals to self-fulfillment, rather than as problems to be solved. In a discussion with a different vocabulary, he would postulate, I suspect, that the voice of God can only be heard in such sacred places, venues that take up no space and need no cathedral. While these are not the words of the therapy room, they certainly ring with the tenor of being called, of meaning beyond the mundane—of inspiration. * * del.icio.us * Google Buzz * RSS * Twitter * YahooBuzz * Technorati * StumbleUpon * Reddit * Print * Live * LinkedIn * Google * email IFRAME: http://www.facebook.com/plugins/like.php?&href=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.terrypearce.com%2Fwordpress%2F2009%2F09%2F22%2Finspirational_people%2Fjungs-shadow-publication-of-the-red-book%2F&layout=standard&show_faces=1&width=&action=like&font=arial&colorscheme=light&height=80 Filed in Current Events, Inspirational People | Tagged Eranos, Inspiration, Jung, shadow, The Red Book | Comments (4) * Marriage and Civil Unions Wednesday, August 26, 2009 This last week, the ELCA, the largest organization of Lutherans in the United States, voted to enlarge their doctrine of inclusion of gays and lesbians in the pulpit. The rhetoric required is typical of the kind of language required because of our short-sightedness about this issue. See Terry’s article articulating a sensible and inclusive position on marriage and civil unions at the Huliq News Blog: http://www.huliq.com/5/85391/lutheran-language-mirrors-countrys-confusion. * * del.icio.us * Google Buzz * RSS * Twitter * YahooBuzz * Technorati * StumbleUpon * Reddit * Print * Live * LinkedIn * Google * email IFRAME: http://www.facebook.com/plugins/like.php?&href=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.terrypearce.com%2Fwordpress%2F2009%2F08%2F26%2Fcurrent-events-and-inspiration%2Fmarraige-and-civil-unions%2F&layout=standard&show_faces=1&width=&action=like&font=arial&colorscheme=light&height=80 Filed in Current Events | Tagged marraige; civil unions; gay/lesbian | Comments (0) * Book Review: “The Geopolitics of Emotion” Wednesday, August 19, 2009 moisi Dominque Moïsi writes a column for The Financial Times and is a contributor to Foreign Affairs. He is currently a Visiting Professor of Government at Harvard University. Mr. Moïsi is both Jewish and French, and in this work brings a wonderful perspective to the imbroglio of geopolitics. His view is important to our purposes, since inspiration is more than a logical proposition — at the very least it generates emotion and it could well be that it emanates from an emotional base. The author categorizes cultures, and thereby groups of nations, according to the dominant emotion that drives their relationships with the rest of the world. Hope, says Moïsi, characterizes China and India, the growing, optimistic nations of Asia. He posits that The United States and most of Europe are driven by fear, seeking to shore up power that has been diminished in recent decades as the world’s resources have become re-allocated toward more rapidly growing economies. He places Japan in this same realm, citing its long history of homogeneity and relative isolation. He suggests that most of the Muslim world is driven by humiliation, given the history of what these nations see as American and to a lesser extent Israeli and European dominance. Against these rather generalized cases, Moïsi comments on other more difficult examples — South America, Africa and Russia, suggesting that the dominant emotions of each of these civilizations will have more influence on their foreign policy than a more rational model of national self-interest. Reading the work, I was struck, not only by the uniqueness of the model, but by my own intuitive agreement with his observations. (See entry on this blog, January 27, 2009) It seems that the emotional needs of nations are at least as important as their actual positions. It’s also clear that in order to inspire, we have to get through a veil of mistrust. If our goal is to inspire the world’s population, regardless of belief, nationality or economic circumstances, then our first hurdle is to recognize and then acknowledging the emotional makeup of others. Only then can we be taken seriously enough to create common enthusiasm. Toward this end, Mr. Moïsi’s work defines a fine first step. As a final chapter, the author writes scenarios articulating the situation in 2025, each depicting a different result depending on which emotion has prevailed…..eye opening, sobering, and a cause for closer attention. Let us know what you think of it. Moïsi, Dominique. The Geopolitics of Emotion. New York: Doubleday, 2009. * * del.icio.us * Google Buzz * RSS * Twitter * YahooBuzz * Technorati * StumbleUpon * Reddit * Print * Live * LinkedIn * Google * email IFRAME: http://www.facebook.com/plugins/like.php?&href=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.terrypearce.com%2Fwordpress%2F2009%2F08%2F19%2Fbook-reviews%2Fbook-review-the-geopolitics-of-emotion%2F&layout=standard&show_faces=1&width=&action=like&font=arial&colorscheme=light&height=80 Filed in Book Reviews | | Comments (1) * Inspiration at a Golf Tournament? Sunday, August 16, 2009 yang Dang. I had to work today, a perfectly wonderful Sunday in Larkspur, California. What made it worse was that the office was hot and the final round of the golf’s PGA championship was on television. As all true fans know, watching sports TV is best not done alone in an office….so after checking the web for results, off I went to the local pub to watch the last holes. For those who didn’t do this, here’s the rundown: The world’s number one golfer, Tiger Woods, was in a dog-fight with a little-known South Korean, Y.E. Yang (more precisely Yong-Eun Yang) for the championship. When I arrived at the pub, Woods was trailing Yang by one shot going to the 18th and final hole. Now, to give you some perspective, this would be like Michael Jordan being down in a slam-dunk contest to a 5/10” high-schooler, or Warren Buffet being behind in investment gains to a dart-throwing hair-dresser. In golf, Woods is Goliath to just about anyone else’s David. The atmosphere in the pub was electric. Woods himself is no slouch in the inspiration department. The first person of color to really excel at the sport in the United States, Tiger has spurred many a youngster and a few oldsters to take up the game. His life story is compelling—great parents, hard work and excellence. His dedication and commitment are legend. Many of us grieved with him when his father (“Pop” to Tiger) passed away a few years ago just before a major championship. Just about everyone in the pub was rooting for him to win his 15th major championship. Yet there was something compelling about Yang. His composure in the face of huge crowds and pressure was impressive. Even after missing a short putt on the 17th, he stayed in the fairway on 18, hitting down the left side to leave himself a tricky second shot to a small green. Woods was down the middle and perfectly positioned to approach the pin on the left side of the tiny green and force a playoff. Yang stuck his second shot and sank a ten-footer for a two-shot win, and the pub went wild. I admit that I teared up when I saw this modest man embrace his wife on the way to the scorer’s tent. The guy next to me was glued to the set…..he said simply, “It’s great to see someone that happy.” Is this inspiration? It certainly felt that way, and I would be surprised if thousands if not millions of Korean kids are not moved to change their lives by this simple experience—not just golfers, but others who have dreams of achieving success that they didn’t quite see as possible before today. So what is it precisely that creates that feeling of possibility? * * del.icio.us * Google Buzz * RSS * Twitter * YahooBuzz * Technorati * StumbleUpon * Reddit * Print * Live * LinkedIn * Google * email IFRAME: http://www.facebook.com/plugins/like.php?&href=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.terrypearce.com%2Fwordpress%2F2009%2F08%2F16%2Fcurrent-events-and-inspiration%2Finspiration-at-a-golf-tournament%2F&layout=standard&show_faces=1&width=&action=like&font=arial&colorscheme=light&height=80 Filed in Current Events | Tagged dreams, Inspiration, new possibilities, PGA, sports, Tiger Woods | Comments (0) * Is Healthcare Reform Inspiring? Saturday, August 15, 2009 What a wonderfully American phenomenon…..town hall meetings, people expressing themselves, even as the majority of people who speak or yell are polarized and have bad information. Opinions are being expressed with little restraint, and many of expressions come from within, sparked by deep emotion. Are these expressions inspired? It depends. Inspiration is defined as “breathing life into.”…its etymologies suggest that it comes from without…it is Divine, the “breath of life,” and as such comes from our higher angels. If you are a student of the chakras, you will see inspiration coming from the heart and up, not from the belly down! It springs from an imagined future that is better than our past. It depends on some connection with a greater good…something that is larger than our individual self. The idea of health care reform carries with it some inspirational values: fairness, compassion and progress toward creating opportunity for all based on basic human rights. It also suggests better stewardship of our resources; more money for exploration of new ways to contribute to the world or discover new frontiers. Resistance to health care reform has its basis in fear and lack of trust, both generated by years of inept and downright inauthentic legislators. Will politicians benefit? Will those with the most money to lose be able to write the legislation? Will our representatives really shoot straight with us? Will reform mean that I pay for someone who is not contributing? Will those not part of our nation legally benefit unjustly? Will my own health be in jeopardy? Just what part of my own freedom will I lose? Such fears don’t create inspiration, but hope for a better future does. We are depending on enlightened and balanced leadership to guide us to be our best selves. A leader is inspiring only to the extent that we are willing to trust him or her. Trust requires that we believe a leader has our best interest at heart…. in this case we are wondering whether to trust the President and his allies. I have yet to decide what I’m going to do here….but at some point, we all have to decide, even in the face of our own fears. * * del.icio.us * Google Buzz * RSS * Twitter * YahooBuzz * Technorati * StumbleUpon * Reddit * Print * Live * LinkedIn * Google * email IFRAME: http://www.facebook.com/plugins/like.php?&href=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.terrypearce.com%2Fwordpress%2F2009%2F08%2F15%2Fcurrent-events-and-inspiration%2Fis-healthcare-reform-inspiring%2F&layout=standard&show_faces=1&width=&action=like&font=arial&colorscheme=light&height=80 Filed in Current Events | Tagged Add new tag, current events, health care, Inspiration, politics, values | Comments (0) ‹ Older posts * Search for: ____________________ Search * Contents + *About + *Contact + *Leadership Communication + *News From Friends + *Terry’s Radio Interviews * Recent Posts + *Tuscon: It Happens Every Day. + *A Thanksgiving Tradition: Gratitude. + Jodi Pearce Wilson Ehrlicher, May 19,1976–Dec. 5,2007 + * Jeter and Bush. 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Wisdom Quotes and Bible Verses About It In His teachings Jesus Christ said:"Ask and you shall receive", therefore when it comes to wisdom, the askreceive principle remains unchanged: "If any of you lacks wisdom, he should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to him. But when he asks, he must believe and not doubt" James 1:5,6b "To understand reality is not the same as to know about outward events. It is to perceive the essential nature of things. The best-informed man is not necessarily the wisest. Indeed there is a danger that precisely in the multiplicity of his knowledge he will lose sight of what is essential. But on the other hand, knowledge of an apparently trivial detail quite often makes it possible to see into the depth of things. And so the wise man will seek to acquire the best possible knowledge about events, but always without becoming dependent upon this knowledge. To recognize the significant in the factual is wisdom." 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CAPTION: The Keys of Knowledge Life Streams Home About Map Index Search Support [contact.gif] Plain English keys to the ancient knowledge and wisdom of all spiritual traditions The Keys of Wisdom and Knowledge Knowledge is acquired through the learning process. Wisdom is the ability to apply this knowledge through experience, without having to think about what you are doing. From within the silence and stillness of the mind and body comes the remembering. Within the remembering of the core of knowledge, past learned, lies the inherent knowing of the body stored as experience. This is the source of spiritual wisdom. Beyond that lies the Absolute. Insights from the Silence There is a difference between Wisdom and Knowledge. There are many who are book-learned, who have attended courses, who have searched for an understanding of Life, Religious Philosophy, Spirituality and the relationship between these. Just because we have been taught something or read it in a book somewhere does not mean that what we have acquired as knowledge can be put into practical application. It is only when the words are alive within us that we can explain and interpret without repeating or quoting the words of often long dead authors like a parrot. People spend their whole lives searching for knowledge in attempt to gain wisdom .. to understand Why ..? to understand the meaning of their incarnation. Inherent, in the silence beyond the chatter of the mind, from the remembering, if allowed, come the original vibrations of ancient spiritual wisdom. These are the Keys of Kknowledge within the core, the genetic memory records of the body stored in the DNA. These same Keys of Knowledge can also be found in the past life records of the soul, stored in what some call Akasha. The Keys of Knowledge and Wisdom lie in the true Silence, beyond the mind that thinks it knows, in the realms of Brahmin, Atman and Non-duality. It is the individual mind who has create the duality of words from a knowing which is not knowledge based. In this section, Fiona and I will attempt to translate, explain and interpret, in our plain English words some of the collective remembering contained in the Keys of Knowledge. There are some other articles and stories in The Plain Man's Notebook The Keys of Knowledge and Wisdom - Spiritual Insights from the Silence The Knowledge and Wisdom Notebook · The Great Uncertainty The fear of death and dying is the greatest obstacle to personal liberation as it deepens the divide between body and consciousness. · The Living Tantra - All the world's a stage Who is our unconscious Inner Director and how many times do we even hear this director let alone heed what we hear · The Zen of Falling Bird Poo If there is no process of those things that require the use of mind to observe and analyze, does the tree falling in the forest make a sound? · Power and Existence - The Journey Home Spiritual Wisdom is respect of ourselves and comes from knowing we are the existence, the Love we seek and the Act of Loving. · Needs of the Mind Our access to the Cosmic Soup is directly related and proportional to the liberation of our own mind and the placement of our point of perception. · The Word - frozen in time Our everyday world is built upon millions of events and decisions that occurred in the past. 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Why? In our fast-paced world, is there time and space for wisdom to have any value? Medical science is enabling many of us to live longer. Will longevity inevitably grace us with wisdom? Do you have to get old before you get wise? Have you ever noticed children who seem to be "old souls," much wiser than their years ? So what are the characteristics of wisdom? To mention a few, I recognize wisdom in humour, serenity, understanding, loving, peacefulness, the lines on a face that speak of trials met and overcome, the gentle spirit that sparkles in smiling eyes, the child who laughs when there is nothing to laugh about. If you are busy with work, raising a family and running a voluntary project or two on the side, it would seem you would have little time for "wisdom." However, a wisdom break could be just what you need to accomplish more in less time with reduced stress. What is more, you are worth taking that time to nourish yourself, that break to listen to the wisdom within you that will shine a light on what you doing and aiming to accomplish. Recently, I have been experimenting with a technique that I learnt many years ago. Away from my home routine and enjoying changes of scene, I nevertheless felt I wanted another way to listen inwardly, in addition to my daily meditation. This technique helped me digest the experiences I was having and feed my wisdom bank with fresh understanding. On my travels I had limited internet access, so I was away from my usual distraction of choice, although I still had my laptop. The technique works on the idea that we have our own source of knowing and wisdom that we can draw upon when facing a new situation, difficulty or doubt. My preference is to do a written dialogue, on paper or on the computer, because writing has a way of slowing down my mind so that I actually listen and receive, instead of trying to make things happen. However, I have found that I can also use the technique inwardly when out walking, when I have a question I am debating. It works. I start by taking a few deep breaths to gain access to my inner knowing and set up the dialogue between me and I.C. (for "Inner Counsellor"). It can look a little like this, for example: Me: Hello. I.C.: How are things going? Me: Pretty good. I am not sure about how to make this article useful for readers. I.C.: How can you make it useful for yourself? Me: By letting my thoughts flow spontaneously; I can always edit later. I like watching what comes to mind as I let myself write. I.C.: What else? Me: By enjoying the process of discovering more about what I have to say. I.C.: OK. What else? Me: How can I be sure that what I have to say will actually mean anything to anyone else? I.C.: You can't. Even if one reader benefits, then your job is well done. Practice makes perfect. Love yourself in the process. Me: That make sense. Because if I am loving myself, there is a chance that the loving will come through my words. I.C.: Good chance. It is not just your words but the energy behind the words that has a way of communicating to the readers who are drawn to what you write. We all need more loving. Me: I like this. Thank you. I.C.: I love you. Me: I love you, too. The dialogue can be longer than this and often includes statements of forgiving and gratitude, which assist me in tapping in to more of my peace and understanding. I have found that the relationship with the best of myself has a way of enriching my relationships with others. How? Because in empathy within myself, I enjoy greater harmony with others. I am less demanding and have fewer expectations that get in the way of simply being with another person. John-Roger said: You can go within yourself and focus on those elements in you that are the essence of loving. Get in touch with the core of humanity within you. Get in touch with all the wonderful, real, positive elements of your own nature. Be in relationship to your caring, your empathy, your understanding heart. Do what it takes to evoke a loving awareness in you, and then see every human being (including the infamous "them") through your own love-colored glasses. Taking the time to listen to an elder can be reassuring, especially one who is successfully living beyond, say, 80 or 90. They have gone through extraordinary crises such as world wars and recessions and have survived well. How did they do it? Consider these words of wisdom from Walter Breuning: [EMBED] While we are engaged in the world around us, let us not forget the rich world of the spirit within us. In a busy day, why not give yourself a wisdom break? Jalal Ud-din Rumi wrote: I am pure light, not just a fistful of clay. The shell is not me, I came as the royal pearl within. Look at me not with outward eye but with inward vision of the heart; Follow me there and see how unencumbered we become. How do you recognize wisdom in yourself or someone else? Who is the person whose wisdom most inspires you? Is wisdom of any value in today's world? I would love to hear from you. I am listening. *** Please feel free to leave a comment below, or contact me at anne@annenaylor.com
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[trans.gif] The Changing Face of Psychological Health [trans.gif] Will Chinese Mothers Win the Parenting Prize? Comments 59 Pending Comments 0 View FAQ Comments are closed for this entry View All Favorites Recency | Popularity Page: 1 2 Next › Last » (2 total) photo Lawrence L Kiser 01:17 PM on 10/19/2010 5 Fans did you also know that the body itself, not the brain/mind connection but the body brain connection which is separate in terms of knowledge, also carries a wisdom. by learning a simple neurological test you can expand your level of awareness to know things beyond simple dialogue. Article is informative and there is more. see article at llkiser.com for more. Lawrence_L_Kiser: did you also know that the body itself, not the http://www.huffingtonpost.com/social/Lawrence_L_Kiser/finding-inner-wisdom_b_763778_64225301.html Permalink | Share it photo HUFFPOST BLOGGER Dr. Cara Barker 09:05 PM on 10/18/2010 401 Fans Wisdom is timeless. Not only lasting the ages, but taking away the stopwatch if we dare enter the Stillness where it dwells. Thanks for the reminder, Ms. Anne! Beautiful! Love, Cara hp_blogger_Dr. Cara Barker: Wisdom is timeless. Not only lasting the ages, but taking http://www.huffingtonpost.com/social/hp_blogger_Dr. Cara Barker/finding-inner-wisdom_b_763778_64160800.html Permalink | Share it photo HUFFPOST BLOGGER Anne Naylor 01:09 AM on 10/19/2010 555 Fans Follow Dearest Cara, Take away the stopwatch and enter the Stillness, I love that imagery and the nurturing it offers. Thank you for entering your special brand of caring into the conversation - as you always do, all ways. With love, joy and happiness to you, Anne hp_blogger_Anne Naylor: Dearest Cara, Take away the stopwatch and enter the Stillness, http://www.huffingtonpost.com/social/hp_blogger_Anne Naylor/finding-inner-wisdom_b_763778_64180029.html Permalink | Share it photo Yinka Daniel - Elebute 12:13 PM on 10/18/2010 18 Fans The subject of Wisdom is beyond time. This is because Wisdom derives its life from the invisible realm of Supernatural Origin which cannot be pecieved by human senses except our soul and spirit. The soul interpretes from the spirit realm ideas or thoughts that meet the level of understanding of the recepient; Wisdom is revealed based on sufficient understanding or preparation of the individual involved. In other words the Wisdom activity is interpreted by our level of understanding of the issue(s). We cannot use what we don't have. Our level of understanding need to be raised to a higher level if we want to acquire Wisdom for higher accomplishments. The only way this is done efficiently is to tap into the Intelligence of the Supernatural Realm by spending moments either in solitude or those comfortable with for a period of time. We must note however, that though the human brain can from time to time be tuned to get some appreciable results of wise decisions, there is the next level of which Wisdom from the Supernatural Realm will be the only way out of a logjam and provide the best solution to an intractable problem or problems. Yinka_Daniel_-_Elebute: The subject of Wisdom is beyond time. This is because http://www.huffingtonpost.com/social/Yinka_Daniel_-_Elebute/finding-inner-wisdom_b_763778_64094555.html Permalink | Share it photo HUFFPOST BLOGGER Anne Naylor 01:07 AM on 10/19/2010 555 Fans Follow Thank you for commenting Yinka Daniel - Elebute. I love what you say here: "there is the next level of which Wisdom from the Supernatural Realm will be the only way out of a logjam and provide the best solution to an intractable problem or problems." This speaks to me of the resources of love that we can access way beyond our imaginations. With love to you, Anne hp_blogger_Anne Naylor: Thank you for commenting Yinka Daniel - Elebute. I love http://www.huffingtonpost.com/social/hp_blogger_Anne Naylor/finding-inner-wisdom_b_763778_64179924.html Permalink | Share it photo Lawrence L Kiser 01:32 PM on 10/19/2010 5 Fans There is a place in within all of us that is in fact beyond space and time and even distance. It is the super-conscious mind accessed through the imagination, among other ways. The body/mind itself knows things the ego/mind does not and one can learn how the body/mind communicates. Once it is accessed the future and past are available in real time to assist us in nearly every condition or issue. See the site for llkiser for articles if you have interest in more. Thanks for your comment. Lawrence_L_Kiser: There is a place in within all of us that http://www.huffingtonpost.com/social/Lawrence_L_Kiser/finding-inner-wisdom_b_763778_64227838.html Permalink | Share it photo Arithrianos 10:20 AM on 10/18/2010 56 Fans unemcumbered is right, all encumbrances are nor wisdom, that is all clay waiting and destined to break away to reveal the always present. my wisdom visits me often, and i laugh for no apparant reason when visited, no apparant reason, but there is a reason, a very good reason, which is reality IS humour, when you are laughing you are resonating with reality, even or especially if you are crying at the same time, the heart of humour is also the heart of compassion/love, they are the same, as is bliss, bliss/love/laughter/tears, all the same taste. every authentic expression is valable whatever happens, just by expressing the inner truth outwardly you help m,erge the two, you help heal the fundamental ignorance that causes the apprant split in reality that is the cause of suffering. inner and outer are the same, speaking them as such is the gift, and there are many who appreciate it, keep em coming. Arithrianos: unemcumbered is right, all encumbrances are nor wisdom, that is http://www.huffingtonpost.com/social/Arithrianos/finding-inner-wisdom_b_763778_64082140.html Permalink | Share it photo HUFFPOST BLOGGER Anne Naylor 01:05 AM on 10/19/2010 555 Fans Follow Dear Arithrianos Always a treat to read your unique brand of wisdom. One whose humour touches and inspires me is former Archbishop Desmond Tutu. He always seems to manage a laugh about something. And he is one I understand as being very compassionate. With love and appreciation to you, Anne hp_blogger_Anne Naylor: Dear Arithrianos Always a treat to read your unique brand http://www.huffingtonpost.com/social/hp_blogger_Anne Naylor/finding-inner-wisdom_b_763778_64179783.html Permalink | Share it HUFFPOST SUPER USER khanti 07:47 AM on 10/18/2010 78 Fans Err... how about the old saying,"Early to bed, early to rise makes a person healthy and wise". khanti: Err... how about the old saying,"Early to bed, early to http://www.huffingtonpost.com/social/khanti/finding-inner-wisdom_b_763778_64071593.html Permalink | Share it photo HUFFPOST BLOGGER Anne Naylor 01:02 AM on 10/19/2010 555 Fans Follow Ah khanti - from Ben Franklin I think. One of my heroes. Good for the larks, ,but not so good for the night owls, among whom I have many friends. Good to see you here - thank you for stopping by! With love to you, Anne hp_blogger_Anne Naylor: Ah khanti - from Ben Franklin I think. One of http://www.huffingtonpost.com/social/hp_blogger_Anne Naylor/finding-inner-wisdom_b_763778_64179622.html Permalink | Share it HUFFPOST SUPER USER khanti 01:46 AM on 10/19/2010 78 Fans Inner wisdom come from a heart that is pure the source for compassion, unselfishness. We reach this fountain of purity when we are free from our ego and sincere. Spontaneuos knowing (realization) that sprout from this source seeing things as they are the thusness of things. khanti: Inner wisdom come from a heart that is pure the http://www.huffingtonpost.com/social/khanti/finding-inner-wisdom_b_763778_64181976.html Permalink | Share it photo HUFFPOST BLOGGER Paul Hunting 05:42 AM on 10/18/2010 3 Fans Thanks, Annie. If Rumi can mix up his metaphors like that, then perhpas there is hope for my writing yet. Tell me, oh wise one, has my time now come, or am I still ahead of it? L&L, Paul hp_blogger_Paul Hunting: Thanks, Annie. If Rumi can mix up his metaphors like http://www.huffingtonpost.com/social/hp_blogger_Paul Hunting/finding-inner-wisdom_b_763778_64068125.html Permalink | Share it photo HUFFPOST BLOGGER Anne Naylor 01:00 AM on 10/19/2010 555 Fans Follow Hi Paul, Yes, Rumi has fun with his metephors. Your time now come? As in a soul whose time as come? I would say you are still approaching it... Love and blessings to you, Anne hp_blogger_Anne Naylor: Hi Paul, Yes, Rumi has fun with his metephors. Your http://www.huffingtonpost.com/social/hp_blogger_Anne Naylor/finding-inner-wisdom_b_763778_64179526.html Permalink | Share it photo Pema 01:07 PM on 10/17/2010 538 Fans Dear Anne :) you knocked it outta the park once again. the quote by Rumi i found paticuarly inspriational. it does seem the greatest minds have come to one simple conclusion to look with your heart, either inwards or outward. i heard this is a meditation years ago, to start looking with my heart and not my eyes and it has opened a world to me, not black and white but full of richness and color. life became softer and less painful, i was truely connecting to all people all things. I so love coming and reading your blogs. it really makes a difference in my life and i wanted you to know that. happiness, pema Pema: Dear Anne :) you knocked it outta the park once http://www.huffingtonpost.com/social/Pema/finding-inner-wisdom_b_763778_64005861.html Permalink | Share it photo HUFFPOST BLOGGER Anne Naylor 02:53 PM on 10/17/2010 555 Fans Follow Dear Pema, Thank you for showing up and sharing your sweet self here again. I love your images of a softer, richer and more colourful world. The heart says it all. I appreciate your kind words very much. With loving and happiness to you, Anne hp_blogger_Anne Naylor: Dear Pema, Thank you for showing up and sharing your http://www.huffingtonpost.com/social/hp_blogger_Anne Naylor/finding-inner-wisdom_b_763778_64014502.html Permalink | Share it photo HUFFPOST SUPER USER LifeChangeStartsNow 11:58 AM on 10/17/2010 162 Fans Follow This is a lovely post Anne and thank you. I recognise the Inner Counsellor well, we haven't chatted in quite a while in my special room where we used to meet. Maybe this is a big hint for me since I'm not sure if there's any wisdom in me at all. However, it is easy to recognise in the darndest of persons and that surprises and pleases me every time whether it be a taxi driver, a stranger passing by or even one of the dumb schmucks out there, and that just goes to show that we all have worth. Thank you Catherine LifeChangeStartsNow: This is a lovely post Anne and thank you. I http://www.huffingtonpost.com/social/LifeChangeStartsNow/finding-inner-wisdom_b_763778_63999738.html Permalink | Share it photo Pema 12:55 PM on 10/17/2010 538 Fans Catherine!!! ive missed ya gf. so glad to see you posting. i cant go without that smile of yours for too long. hugs pema Pema: Catherine!!! ive missed ya gf. so glad to see you http://www.huffingtonpost.com/social/Pema/finding-inner-wisdom_b_763778_64004880.html Permalink | Share it photo HUFFPOST SUPER USER LifeChangeStartsNow 08:10 AM on 10/19/2010 162 Fans Follow Hiya Pema, what a pleasure to read your comment and thank you. Internet was forcibly "removed" obliging me to work on other pressing matters but yeah, am back now. Cheers Catherine LifeChangeStartsNow: Hiya Pema, what a pleasure to read your comment and http://www.huffingtonpost.com/social/LifeChangeStartsNow/finding-inner-wisdom_b_763778_64191015.html Permalink | Share it photo HUFFPOST BLOGGER Anne Naylor 02:49 PM on 10/17/2010 555 Fans Follow Well Hello Lovely Catherine, What joy to see you here again. I am sure there is plenty of wisdom in you, just waiting for you whenever you wish to knock on its door. We all have so much worth, and I too think it is worth being open to receive wisdom, even when it comes from the least likely places. Much love and many blessings to you, Anne hp_blogger_Anne Naylor: Well Hello Lovely Catherine, What joy to see you here http://www.huffingtonpost.com/social/hp_blogger_Anne Naylor/finding-inner-wisdom_b_763778_64014188.html Permalink | Share it photo HUFFPOST BLOGGER Dr. Judith Rich 11:41 AM on 10/17/2010 407 Fans Follow Dear Anne, I'm happy to see you back here, we've missed you! I do believe wisdom is always with us, available to us, but we're not always available to it. Which is why your example of the inner dialogue is so helpful. In addition, life itself, is always giving us clues, if we open our eyes to be able to receive them. I recall working in Chicago a decade ago, when they had these wonderfully painted life-sized cows all over the city. Right in front of the door of my hotel was a cow painted brown and in white was the word "Now", on its side. I didn't even put together the artist's intended message, "How now, brown cow". I only saw the word "Now" and it changed my perspective. It was a jog from the universe, reminding me there is only "Now". Obviously, that's the message I needed to receive. That day, everywhere, everything was a reminder of "Now". It can sound trite and Hallmark cardy, but for me, the ability to be present and in the NOW is the true source of wisdom. Walter is a great demonstration of this. Bless him and bless you for sharing him with us. I always look forward to the gentle guidance you bring. With love and appreciation, Judith hp_blogger_Dr. Judith Rich: Dear Anne, I'm happy to see you back here, we've http://www.huffingtonpost.com/social/hp_blogger_Dr. Judith Rich/finding-inner-wisdom_b_763778_63998227.html Permalink | Share it photo HUFFPOST BLOGGER Anne Naylor 02:46 PM on 10/17/2010 555 Fans Follow Hello Dearest Judith, Your presence here is warming to me - thank you! I love your How Now Brown Cow! There are painted cows in London - the last time I was there, but I did not see a brown one. I take your message from the Universe of Now, now for me! Agreed - in the NOW is the true source of wisdom. Take a deep breath on that. Huge love and blessings to you, Anne hp_blogger_Anne Naylor: Hello Dearest Judith, Your presence here is warming to me http://www.huffingtonpost.com/social/hp_blogger_Anne Naylor/finding-inner-wisdom_b_763778_64013991.html Permalink | Share it photo HUFFPOST BLOGGER Kari Henley 08:11 AM on 10/17/2010 271 Fans Follow hello my friend and welcome back! I would have to say your IC is spot on! The energy and loving intention of your writings absoultely touches so many of us, and is true wisdom. What a treasure to hear the words of a 114 centenarian! Having a father in law who is 102, I can deeply appreciate what a treasure they are. Thank you! Kari hp_blogger_Kari Henley: hello my friend and welcome back! I would have to http://www.huffingtonpost.com/social/hp_blogger_Kari Henley/finding-inner-wisdom_b_763778_63985539.html Permalink | Share it photo HUFFPOST BLOGGER Anne Naylor 11:08 AM on 10/17/2010 555 Fans Follow Hello Kari, So good to see you here again! I am happy to be back on the Page. What it is to appreciate the treasure of the older ones living amongst us. They are such a blessing. Many blessings to you and thank you for being here! Anne hp_blogger_Anne Naylor: Hello Kari, So good to see you here again! I http://www.huffingtonpost.com/social/hp_blogger_Anne Naylor/finding-inner-wisdom_b_763778_63995479.html Permalink | Share it photo Peter Aursnes 08:11 AM on 10/17/2010 720 Fans Follow I must admit I have a lot of conversations with both myself, not necessarily constructive, and my higher self. Always constructive, even though it may take some time before I grasp it. Suppose that's the area where I need to focus. Peter_Aursnes: I must admit I have a lot of conversations with http://www.huffingtonpost.com/social/Peter_Aursnes/finding-inner-wisdom_b_763778_63985538.html Permalink | Share it photo HUFFPOST BLOGGER Anne Naylor 11:06 AM on 10/17/2010 555 Fans Follow Hello Peter, It is said that wisdom takes: practice, practice, practice. I always seem to receive something of value when I take a little time to tune in to that wiser part of me. Thank you for taking the time to comment here. Peace and happiness to you, Anne hp_blogger_Anne Naylor: Hello Peter, It is said that wisdom takes: practice, practice, http://www.huffingtonpost.com/social/hp_blogger_Anne Naylor/finding-inner-wisdom_b_763778_63995283.html Permalink | Share it photo Lawson Meadows 03:34 AM on 10/17/2010 93 Fans Anne, Great post! Made me reflect on past conversations I have had with myself that served a purpose and filled a need. About wisdom... good grief, I don't know, I think most people believe they have it, and to our credit as a species, many do. I think what is missing is the respect seen in the past for the life experience. Too many put value solely on knowing how, rather than including knowing when to and when not to. After watching Walter's great clip, I began to think of the vast wisdom languishing in the nursing homes across America. What a waste. Lawson Meadows Lawson_Meadows: Anne, Great post! Made me reflect on past conversations I http://www.huffingtonpost.com/social/Lawson_Meadows/finding-inner-wisdom_b_763778_63980105.html Permalink | Share it photo HUFFPOST BLOGGER Anne Naylor 11:04 AM on 10/17/2010 555 Fans Follow Hello Lawson, A joy to see you here - thank you. I agree that too many of our senior generation are not in a position to express their wisdom. The very young and the very old have a great deal to gain from spending timing with each other, is one thought that I have. Interesting what you say about knowing timing, to act or not. I also see that as having an intuitive sense within the larger picture of events. With love to you, Anne hp_blogger_Anne Naylor: Hello Lawson, A joy to see you here - thank http://www.huffingtonpost.com/social/hp_blogger_Anne Naylor/finding-inner-wisdom_b_763778_63995088.html Permalink | Share it photo HUFFPOST BLOGGER Ed and Deb Shapiro 12:41 AM on 10/17/2010 1153 Fans Hi Anne- How do you recognize wisdom in yourself or someone else? wisdom is our nature - it is who we are at the core of our being - when you see it in yourself u can see it in others. Who is the person whose wisdom most inspires you? My wonderful wife Deb. Is wisdom of any value in today's world? Without wisdom the world would be barren. May all beings be happy & free from suffering hp_blogger_Ed and Deb Shapiro: Hi Anne- How do you recognize wisdom in yourself or http://www.huffingtonpost.com/social/hp_blogger_Ed and Deb Shapiro/finding-inner-wisdom_b_763778_63974246.html Permalink | Share it photo HUFFPOST BLOGGER Anne Naylor 11:00 AM on 10/17/2010 555 Fans Follow Hello Glorious Ed and Deb, May you be always rich with happiness, and the freedom to dance and express your joy. Your loving presence is always a treat for me. Thank you for Being. With love and hugs, Anne hp_blogger_Anne Naylor: Hello Glorious Ed and Deb, May you be always rich http://www.huffingtonpost.com/social/hp_blogger_Anne Naylor/finding-inner-wisdom_b_763778_63994760.html Permalink | Share it photo HUFFPOST BLOGGER Ed and Deb Shapiro 12:18 PM on 10/17/2010 1153 Fans you are a jewel in the huffpo community! :-)) hp_blogger_Ed and Deb Shapiro: you are a jewel in the huffpo community! :-)) http://www.huffingtonpost.com/social/hp_blogger_Ed and Deb Shapiro/finding-inner-wisdom_b_763778_64001469.html Permalink | Share it There are More Comments on this Thread. Click Here To See them All amymari 12:35 AM on 10/17/2010 39 Fans I'm glad the author does not present and promote the false idea that with age comes wisdom. The two do not necessarily correlate. I know people older than me - like my parents - whose actions prove to me and to others that they are not very wise people. I think wisdom comes partly from emotional and intellectual maturity, and the ability and willingness to look at yourself and examine what you see, to admit if only to yourself your true strengths and weaknesses. Being capable of sincere self reflection, being able to admit you could be wrong. Being unafraid to admit you don't know all the answers. amymari: I'm glad the author does not present and promote the http://www.huffingtonpost.com/social/amymari/finding-inner-wisdom_b_763778_63973896.html Permalink | Share it photo HUFFPOST BLOGGER Anne Naylor 10:58 AM on 10/17/2010 555 Fans Follow Dear amymari It is true in my experience that older people are not necessarily wiser. Your comments about wisdom match my own sense of what it is. With love and appreciation to you, Anne hp_blogger_Anne Naylor: Dear amymari It is true in my experience that older http://www.huffingtonpost.com/social/hp_blogger_Anne Naylor/finding-inner-wisdom_b_763778_63994608.html Permalink | Share it photo Michael Maitri 12:20 AM on 10/17/2010 5 Fans Follow A wise person is fair, kind, caring, loving, helpful, patient, honest, truthful, selfless, mindful, sincere, humble, virtuous, tolerant, content, friendly, impartial, forgiving, generous, respectful, thoughtful, considerate, understanding, and compassionate etc. Michael_Maitri: A wise person is fair, kind, caring, loving, helpful, patient, http://www.huffingtonpost.com/social/Michael_Maitri/finding-inner-wisdom_b_763778_63973045.html Permalink | Share it photo HUFFPOST BLOGGER Anne Naylor 10:56 AM on 10/17/2010 555 Fans Follow Amen to that, Michael. I agree with you - thank you for commenting. With love, Anne hp_blogger_Anne Naylor: Amen to that, Michael. 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Relationships -- and jealousy in particular -- provide an opportunity to come to a fundamental understanding of the self. Jealousy is the eruption of attachment. It can be transcended only through awareness. As we move with awareness into the core of this phenomenon, we pass through ungrounded expectations and beliefs, projections and delusions, envy, guilt, the loss of self-esteem, and the threat to security. The core is an existential problem; it has to do with illusion and the essentially fearful nature of the ego. In possessiveness, ego defends itself against nothingness. When we come to know and accept the nothingness at the core, jealousy and the pain of obsessive attachment cease. Imagine this: You're very much in love with someone, and you have to go out of town. You know your lover's habits; you know he or she likes to go to bed fairly early, and that he or she gets up and goes to work in the morning. So you go away on your trip. You're gone for about a week, and then one evening you call, and there's no answer. Awful pictures rush into your mind. With great forces of will you stop them. The next morning, you call at eleven in the morning. His or her roommate answers the phone and says, "Gee, I'm sorry, She's not up yet, She's sleeping late." Oh god. Something is fishy. Something's going on. You don't know what it is, but your stomach is starting to churn. You're jealous. What do you do when you're jealous? In a fever, you may try to find out if your lover has been with someone else. If he or she has, you go into a rage, a frenzy of blame. It's an immediate response. You are angry. You feel violated. You want revenge. You want to stop what is happening, control the situation, manipulate whatever is necessary to protect yourself. If you can cool down, if you can get hold of the internal automatic reactions that accompany jealousy, you might find out that you can indeed fix the situation. Often, what comes up as jealousy can be eradicated by simple communication. "I need to have more time with you." "When we go to a party, I don't want you to be with anybody else." "I need to have sex outside the relationship." When we leave these needs unspoken, they lie in wait until a situation exposes them. It is essential to get very clear and explicit with your partner about your needs and expectations. Such solutions of diplomacy are important, but they remain superficial. A deeper opportunity is missed. Things are happening in this odious passion that present the possibility of entering new levels of self-understanding, to see who you are and what is the source of suffering. The first step is to clarify what you are about in the relationship. If you and your lover want to evolve into more awareness; if somehow, somewhere, the glimmer of enlightened consciousness attracts you and you want to move in that direction, then you can make an important choice. What you choose is not just to increase your pleasure together, not even necessarily to protect the relationship or to secure it in some way, but to use the relationship as a means of coming to a deeper and more fundamental understanding of what is so. RELATIONSHIP FOR TRUTH How you see the relationship will affect matters from the beginning; for instance, what you share with each other about your realities. If both of you are there to create a safe and secure relationship, you will tend to conceal anything that might threaten it. Many couples come to live completely mendacious lives together. Gradually, they smother themselves in compromises. Love energy -- eros -- cannot pass between two lives lived in lies. Only truth is erotic. If the relationship is seen as a means to knowledge, the paradigm shifts: The discipline is to learn to live uncompromisingly in your truth and to love the other without qualification. No easy task, but there is no higher., What you are loving together is truth: Everything real has to be shared; everything else has to be dismantled. Here is a simple test to see where you are in this matter of relating. Write down all the things you have not shared with your partner. Contemplate this list, and there you will see the limits you place on the relationship, the degree of your commitment to the way of the lover. LOVE AND ATTACHMENT Now, on the path where relationship is a means for coming to self-understanding, it is necessary to clarify the difference between loving and being attached. This is a most basic distinction, because so much of what we experience as attachment, we call love. In fact, most of the institutions around love, such as marriage and family, are actually ways of protecting our investment in attached situations. Loving someone is glorifying who they are in their uniqueness. Consider a flower. You see a flower that is really beautiful to you. You want to glorify that flower in its own natural setting, or else you want to pick it and possess it. Those are two entirely different ways of being. Love creates a thankful glorification of the flower. You love the other you want to see the other thrive, enjoy, and grow. You want to see them become more of who they are, nor matter what that entails. That's the truth of love. It is unconditional. Attachment is quite different. You want to pick the flower, sever it from its roots, and make it yours. You want to appropriate the beloved, make him or her be what you want them to be, conform to what is convenient for you in the relationship. Attachment is not care for the other; it's care for oneself. This distinction has to be understood: Are you loving, or are you attached? If you are attached, you are going to experience the pain of jealousy. It follows that jealousy becomes the opportunity to see within yourself the truth of attachment. Not theoretical understanding, but existential awareness of attachment at its very roots. Only through this awareness can jealousy be really transcended. PENETRATING TO THE CORE The most extraneous and irrelevant way to deal with jealousy is trying to control your partner. It is also the least effective. Whatever illusions you may have as to who is to blame or who is at fault, jealousy is within you; not within the relationship. Manipulating your lover is a poor palliative. To control outer circumstances by making your lover behave or toe the line in a certain way is to miss the opportunity. You always miss the opportunity of jealousy -- indeed, any pain -- if you blame others. It is not that the other may not be to blame, but that in the matter of inner realities, blame is always irrelevant. Manipulation of the other is external. Moving inward, we use the situation that created the jealousy as the occasion for clarifying communication and for negotiation. To do so is constructive for the relationship, but still peripheral, still not touching upon the real opportunity presented by jealousy. Moving further inward towards the core, we come to the personal level: yourself and your own reactions. This is the real field for dealing with jealousy: not trying to blame or fix your partner, but seeing who you are. Really, jealousy is like an onion -- so overwhelming, so pungent, so difficult to be near. It cannot be ignored. It makes you cry. Yet the onion is an important food. In blaming and controlling, you are refusing to see that there is an onion. You are trying to avoid. In trying to see who you are, you take the onion in hand. You take a radical, internal view of what happened to you in jealousy. Now you peel off layer after layer of the onion until you reach its center. There at the core is the possibility of freedom. DYSFUNCTIONAL BELIEFS The first layer of the onion is your unexamined notions about how one should be in relationship. What are your beliefs? Do you believe that if you're in a relationship with someone, you should be with them exclusively and they should be exclusively with you? Well, where does that belief come from? Is it based upon some hidden idea that the other is your possession? Is the other an object to be arranged in a way that is suitable to you? Only if you possess the beloved can you tell them how to be. So, if you're inclined to manipulate and control in this way somehow subconsciously you have already made the lover into your possession. This is something to look at. Can one person be the possession of another? What beliefs do you carry about relationship? The fact of the matter is, you are not actually in a loving relationship if you think that you possess the other, because the essence of the other is basically free. Whatever peripheral control you may exert, you cannot touch that inner freedom that a human being is. Whatever peripheral control you may exert, you cannot touch that inner freedom that a human being is. You may control your lover so that he or she appears to love you, but you cannot make a person love you. Moving inward, look at the situation rationally or realistically. We each have our own sexuality, and we each have to take care of it as we can. Only some people can fit their sexuality into one relationship. So to have the belief that your lover should be able to so conform may already be erroneous. You are not responsible for the sexuality of the other. You can not take control of their sexuality. You do not own it. It is their own. And what they do about it is in a real sense their own affair. This insight has probably helped me in my own dealings with jealousy more than any other. Somehow I had the idea that my sexuality and her sexuality were tied up as one. That is a beautiful experience. In fact, the relationship may go through a long period where there is a pure union of two sexualities. But to say that that is how it must be forever and oblige the other to behave in accordance with that belief will not work. Erroneous beliefs inevitably contribute to the pain of jealousy. Take stock of your beliefs, and drop the ones that aren't functional. That's the first skin of the onion. PROJECTION The second layer is projection. Sometimes we suspect that our partner is being untrue to us. For instance, that night you called your lover, a thought immediately came to mind: "Oh, she's got somebody with her." One reason that you may have these perceptions is because you yourself are harboring thoughts of being "unfaithful." In fact, if you are in a relationship where you have an agreement not to be sexual with anybody else, you will almost inevitably start having feeling of wanting to be with others. Sooner or later, if you don't share those thoughts, or if you're not up front about the fact that you have such feelings, you will imagine that your partner is having them. This is projecting. Your jealous feelings may come from the fact that you feel like you want to play around, and so you suspect that your partner is doing it because you refuse to be aware that you are entertaining such a temptation yourself. A projected perception and a real one feel differently. We can learn to discriminate between the two. Again, the challenge is to be aware, to examine oneself. ENVY Another level that we have to peel off is envy. Envy is often mistaken for jealousy. I have experienced what I thought was tremendous jealousy, when in fact what I was feeling was envy because my partner was having a ball and I wasn't. Well, she's off having a good time with a boyfriend in New York, and I'm out here sitting alone. I want to have a good time with somebody. Envy is the frustrated longing for the other's experience. It is a different, more superficial phenomenon than jealousy. GUILT Another layer is guilt. Guilt can afflict you if you feel bad because you're jealous. Since the sexual revolution, some would-be liberated people think it's wrong to feel jealous. We are told that we shouldn't feel jealous, we should rise above it. So if you have this belief and you feel jealous, you're going to experience shame and guilt. But judgment is truly irrelevant. Jealousy is jealousy. It is neither good nor bad. It simply is, and it is an opportunity. We must learn to peel away the skins of illusion, and get to the core. Really, what I'm talking about is awareness. The discussions of projection, envy, and guilt are pointers, but you have to bring to your own internal situation of jealousy your awareness. Ask these questions and investigate the reality of your feelings. In order to transcend a negative feeling, you must move deeper and deeper into your own authentic experience of it. Not what you read in a novel or saw in a movie. Not what someone has said you should feel. What you are actually feeling. Becoming aware of the actual feeling and the true source often alleviates the feelings. You may experience what you describe as jealousy, but when you really examine the feelings, what is really there is anger that you were being left out of something that was fun -- envy. There's your partner taking a trip with someone else. You would like to go on that trip, and you're being left out. Those are not really feelings of jealousy. They are simply feelings of sadness or anger at being excluded from something that's happening, something that you feel you belong to in some ways. The outer layers of the onion of jealousy really aren't jealousy at all. They're reactions belonging to other complexes. If you can see them, and separate them out from what you're really feeling, you can sometimes relieve the pain without ever coming to jealousy. What was really going on was moral indignation, envy, guilt or fear, or some other kind of feelings. Up to this point in peeling the onion, the primary emotions are sadness or anger. Both are created out of expectation. You are angry with your lover, you are sad because he or she has violated your expectations. But you are responsible, because you have created and are holding those expectations. Desire, according to the Buddha, is the source of suffering. A tension is created in your consciousness between whatsoever is and what you would have it be. That tension is the basis of all suffering. Once the anger and sadness resulting from our fractured expectations are peeled away, once blame is removed from the other and anger disappears, once we see the superficial feelings around ourselves that aren't really at the core of jealousy, we come to fear. FEAR AND ANXIETY The first fear we come to is fear of loss. Jealousy sees many things that can be lost. The fear of loss of the lover is the greatest. The rest of the fear around jealousy is in fact anxiety; that is to say, it does not have a real object. The first anxiety comes from the loss of self-esteem. All kinds of self-doubt come up. You don't have enough money. Something's wrong with your body. You start projecting your own inadequacies on the other's actions. If your self-esteem is low, a jealous episode is going to be used as an occasion for proving that you are unlovable. Examine the ideas that you have. You'll notice that they belong to all the old mechanisms by which you put yourself down. In other words, you were putting yourself down for these things long before the beloved came along to give you an excuse for doing so. Now you're just using him or her as a pretext. So here's something else that you can do about jealousy: Start being aware that you are putting yourself down and that the inclination to do so is there independently of the jealousy-producing situation. Own your own tendency to put yourself down. Learn to deal with it yourself, and don't lay it on your lover. Deeper than fear that comes from a loss of self-esteem is fear for the nest. One of two lovers is usually more concerned about the security of the relationship. Often it is the woman. Usually the function of the female in nature has been to keep the nest. It's almost as though nature gave her that fear out of protection of its own. The woman fears for her home, fears that the source of biological or family security is threatened. A man can also be possessed by security obsession. As women have become freer and more assertive men experience jealous insecurity more often. This is a deeper level of this onion of jealousy. INFANTILE ANXIETY Deeper than fear for the nest and close to the core, are anxieties from infancy that are quickened by the present situation. Often, such jealousy is delusional there whether or not there is any occasion for it. We can come to terms with many of these fears by looking deep inside and finding memory traces from our childhood of being abandoned, for instance. These memory traces come from various losses or threats, beginning at birth. Later, you may want to win the special love of the parent of the opposite sex, but you may not achieve this primitive goal, so you feel constantly frustrated and inadequate. Or you become morbidly guilty and conclude that you should lose your oedipal goal because your incestuous wishes are bad. You carry within you for the rest of your life memories of these early childhood traumas. Later, as soon as your lover goes for someone else, all that early trauma is triggered. Now if you move into a deep awareness, you can actually experience those childhood traumas, you can see that what you're experiencing in this present situation actually comes form a deep residual memory of abandonment. All of these levels of the onion have to do with illusion, not with realities. They're from the past, from childhood, or they're illusions about the present, beliefs that are illusory, that don't relate to here/now reality. This is a very significant aspect of these anxieties that come with jealousy. If you have jealous feeling, and you start looking at them, suddenly you begin to see that they're not real. You are torturing yourself with unreal fears. What does this mean? What does it come from? THE CORE ILLUSION We are coming closer to the core of the onion. Reactions that are peripheral, the more superficial skins of the onion, are resting upon the core. The core is the source -- the first illusion. The core has to be there for the other illusions to be there. At the core is fear of a deeper kind. In its first aspect, it looks like fear of aloneness. This fear, too, comes from a childhood situation, from memories of when your parents left you alone. There you were, freaked out in your crib, crying, and nobody heard you. This core fear has also the aspect of fear of death. Again, something is going to be taken away -- your own being! That's how vulnerable you are. There's something about jealousy, that gut feeling, that is like the fear of death. It's that immediate, it's that real. Something that's very like fear of death, interestingly enough, is fear of love. When we love, we move so much into the other that we lose ourselves. We use the expression "falling in love" because it's like falling into a great abyss. You lose your identity, your sense of autonomy. And that is exactly what happens when you fall in love. You lose your autonomous sense of who you are. The fears of aloneness, of death, of love, all have the aspect of fear of abysmal nothingness -- the fear that there isn't anything. Death suggests this to us. When we die, we don't know what's beyond. The only thing we know is that it's not like here. So as far as we're concerned, it's just oblivion. Nothingness is there in our consciousness all the time. Jealousy brings us immediately to this fear of oblivion. All these fears -- of death, love, aloneness, and nothingness -- all are like the core of the onion. In fact, they all point to this core. The core itself is existential. It has to do with your existence. Thus jealousy is not fundamentally a problem of relationship, not a problem of love, but a problem of religion. Jealousy is basically, fundamentally, a spiritual problem. What I mean by "religion" here is not belief or morality. I mean religion in the fundamental sense of how you relate to your own existence -- your feelings, your senses, your inner aloneness all of those realities that you experience but can never really communicate. Every human being relates to his or her own existence. Existence is God. In that relationship you're totally alone. In that you have no company. That is what it is to be a human -- relating alone and reflectively to your own existence. The truth of your religion has little to do with going to a church or temple, but with how you relate to that which you can't articulate, which is within you, and true. The way you relate to this existence is the basis of religion, and this religious matter is the core of the onion. Jealousy in its core exposes how you, as a human being, relate to your existence. THE EGO Basic to the question of existence is the question, who is this "I" that's doing all of this feeling? Who is this "I" that loses self-esteem, that has a nest to protect, that is afraid? Who is this "I" that says "mine"? Who is this conglomerate of expectations? Who is this I? In the East, they call it the ego. We use the word "ego" in the West in the sense of self-esteem; or in psychoanalysis, it is your capacity to cope with reality. When I talk about ego, I'm talking about something more fundamental. It is that which identifies, that which feeds on self-esteem, that which is the composition of all your expectations, that which perpetuates itself by possessing. In short, ego is that which can become jealous. Ego and jealousy are both illusory. In your experiences of jealousy, you come to an insight that it is not real. You were jealous, and then all of a sudden you're not jealous any more, and you look back to when you were, and you feel that it wasn't real at all. It disappeared because it had no basis. That's what I mean about ego. Ego is that which we experience which is not real. Jealousy is also not real. Becoming aware is the joy you feel when you actually experience that unreality. Let us consider envy again. Like all the skins of the onion, envy stands on ego. See how illusion works in envy. First of all, how do you know if you can be envious of another person? You see only outer circumstances and objects. You don't really know if the other is really happy with what they're experiencing. When you look at the other, what you perceive is your own projections. Don't even suppose that you can see another person's reality sufficiently to compare with yours in the first place. There's no way -- until we reach utter, silent awareness within -- that we can go into another and truly know their reality. But the illusion goes deeper. In envy you are comparing the I -- which is your ego -- with the ego presented by someone else. Your comparison is based on an illusion that you are an entity and the other another entity, and you can compare the two, Only ego is "comparable." Only if you see yourself as an ego can you compare yourself in the first place. Your comparison is based on illusion. The "you" object that you're comparing with some objectified person out there is really a subject -- internal, hidden, uniquely, incomparably yourself. All your subjective reality is being objectified and then judgement compared with an object out there that you perceive to be a certain way. With envy, possessiveness, jealousy, ego itself, we are not dealing in moral or ethical issues. It is irrelevant whether these or any acts they come from are wrong or right. It is a matter of reality or illusion, of authenticity, of phoniness. When I talk about peeling away the layers of the onion, what I am asking you do is become aware. Through awareness only can we drop this illusion. And that which has illusions, that which can be jealous, is ego. The feeling of abysmal jealousy is an eruption, a deep catharsis of ego. That's why jealousy is the great opportunity to stare ego right in the face. But it is difficult. It requires ruthless awareness, because ego is usually concealing itself. With deadly subtlety it masquerades as comparison, as blame, as the fault of the other, as problems that you have. It's hard even to have any grasp of it, because its hold on you is so subtle, so magical. It's always casting a spell over you. In fact, you believe that you are ego. That's why it's so hard to see. Thus, when jealousy presents the source of suffering itself directly before you, there is great possibility. What creates ego in the first place? Existence takes care of me as a child in a womb. It keeps "breathing" me. Then why do I develop this illusory me that -- in the name of protection -- keeps me in pain, keeps me alienated, isolated, separated from others, and unable to trust in existence? Why am I unable to trust that I'm taken care of by the whole, by all that is? All of us live in fear, and that which lives in fear is the same as that which is jealous: the ego. THE ABYSS To understand the ego, we must return to the core of jealousy. We "fear" the same in love, death, and aloneness. It is existence, or God, pure being. But because it is not a thing (only ego sees things), it has been called in the East, "nothingness" and "emptiness." Let me give you an experience that might give you some sense of this nothingness. When you're waking up in the morning you are in a twilight. You're just coming out of sleep, before your thoughts begin to form, some ground is there. Like a tremendous empty vessel, it's there prior to your thoughts. Things bubble up in it and become realities. They congeal, take on an identity, and form the ego that you think you are. The words "vessel of emptiness" or "nothingness" sound as though they are describing something that is devoid of content. They don't have that meaning. They mean that for existence there are no things that are real. In other words, existence presents us with an undifferentiated flow of experience welling up out of a void, an abyss of the unknown. Only with our minds do we pick out things, interpret them, and say that they are real. Our minds say that things out there really exist in the meaning context and values we assign to them. What we actually experience is a moving kaleidoscope of uninterpreted fullness. And this moving, ever-changing phenomenon over which we have very little control, really, is a nothingness. It is a fullness in which there is no thing. So when you get right down to the basic religious question raised by jealousy, you have to question whether or not you really even exist. In his great work Being and Nothingness, Sartre said that we as human beings so dread this ground of consciousness, this nothingness, that we have to create ourselves to be something. We are nothing. We are undifferentiated out of the great emptiness. We have no content. But this is so frightening, so abysmal, that we create ourselves to be something namely, an ego. Being and nothingness is ego and existence, jealousy and the abyss. We are something fearful created out of nothing. Since somewhere we always know the something to be unreal, nothing is always present to us threateningly. My sense of my death is that it is always presented because nothingness is always there. Death is an accession to nothingness, a return to the source. So here we are, and basically what we come form is emptiness or nothingness. This is our basic angst. A friend of mine experienced a lot of pain in her relationships. She was very compulsive, and possessive. She asked her teacher, Bhagwan Shree Rajneesh, about her pain, and he told her this: The ego, which arises out of the nothingness that we basically are, can have a negative or a positive response to the nothingness. The something that we are knows deep down that we're standing on nothingness. All of you know, deep down, that before the whole, you aren't anything. The negative response is subliminal terror. Against this fear of nothingness, you create the illusion that you are something. You back this project by preoccupation with realities, accumulating and possessing. That something illusory that you are is the one that suffers in jealousy. The entire structure is a negative or fearful response to nothingness. But Bhagwan told my friend that this something-ego can also relate positively to nothingness. Only then can we move out of attachment into prayerful gratitude and heartfelt celebration of the other's being. Only then are we capable of real love. Only by saying a deep yes to nothingness, existence, the whole, do we come to be at home in nothingness. Eventually the positive response enables us to drop the something in favor of nothingness. You are just a bubble. You were nothing before; you are nothing now. An enlightened bubble is not concerned with its bubbleness. It just is. It doesn't appear anything special, yet it feels all, sees all just as it is. That's why it is said to be enlightened. This is a positive, pure response to our given existential situation. FALSE IDOLS Most of us don't react positively. Instead, we shore up our ego realities and live in fear. But death goes on reminding us of nothingness; aloneness goes on reminding us of nothingness; and love reminds us of nothingness. All three of these are ways that we experience nothingness right here and now, and they are frightening. If you have a fear response to nothingness, you will cling in your relationships, you will have to be possessive. You will have to control others. These are all tensions and compulsions that reflect this fundamental fear -- this negative response to nothingness. Thus ego in its fear protects itself from truth. This is the core of the onion. It is this core that you're really dealing with in jealousy. Many illusions are there, many external circumstances distract you from this core, but this is what jealousy is. Given what is so, you have to turn yourself around completely and fall in love with nothingness. This turning brings with it the greatest religious insight: Nothingness is there to be relaxed into and loved. This is what they call in religion, surrender. You surrender to the nothingness and when you do so, it begins to give forth what you need. You have no control. There is no you that can control. The you that controls is exercising the illusion of the ego. We are all in it -- all of us running around filling our lives with possessing, controlling, and manipulating. We are not really in control. Our manipulations are only superficial, but the ego would have us believe that we must be in control or else there is chaos. If you have much insight into how things around you really are, you will come to see this control for what it is. It is like a molecule thinking it controls the universe. The whole organism of existence is moving in its own way, and we are just nothing. Nothingness is the organism that is the whole. You are not separate from that organism, and the sense that you are separate from it is the basic illusion of ego. It prevents the richness that the whole gives forth when we let go to it. You can become possessive about God as you can about a lover. If you become possessive in religion, you lay a trip on God. He will be Rama, he will be Jesus, he will be dialectical materialism, he will be the state, he will be your God. "My religion is the only true one." "The God I believe in is the one and only." Anyone who is very rigid in his or her beliefs is manifesting the same principles as that which creates jealousy. In other words, the possessive person and the fanatic are involved in the same game. They build up the same kinds of resistance to the same primordial fear. So, if you are in negative response to nothingness, you'll become preoccupied with material possessions, you'll become obsessed with controlling a lover, or else you'll become very religious and rigid about your beliefs. When you possess you become possessed. You live in a deep vulnerability based in illusion. The stomach-churning pain of jealousy comes from that vulnerability. That's what you're experiencing. The jealous moment is essential catharsii of this existential complex. TO THE CORE Now, a relationship with a lover or a relationship with God can reveal the ultimate. Through loving a lover or an image of God you can experience pure nothingness as bliss. But if you possess, if you have a God that you have fixed beliefs about, or if you have a lover that you jealously control, what you're actually doing is blocking your realization. Out of fear you are misusing that which can give you an experience of bliss. You are so controlled that you cannot be overwhelmed. And the ultimate can only make itself known when you allow yourself to be overwhelmed. If you have this negative response to nothingness, the very base upon which you are standing is false. That false base is ego, the seat of jealousy. The possessed person, or the God or principle that you believe in, is only a projection of that ego. It is not real. You are relating to an illusion, a projection that you created to keep yourself from experiencing fear. Your eyes are closed. You can't really see the beloved. And this is what happens to us. This is why we don't communicate in love. Because the lover is a false idol. Whether it's the person or whether it is a God, somehow it's false. Our eyes are closed to the reality, and what we're relating to all the time is our own illusion. This is the basic mechanism that creates jealousy in the first place. What you really want from a lover, what you really want from God, is bliss. If you possess them, if you lay your trip on them, if you're relating to your own projection, you're stopping yourself from experiencing this bliss. If you can't know joy through the lover, or through God because of the illusion that you've created, you can't really experience the bliss of love. You have to see this basic mechanism that is happening in your relationship to existence and know that as a jealous person you are making a choice. Love cannot be channeled to one object. If you have one love object and channel all of your love there, what you are experiencing is attachment. Similarly, if you are jealous, you are not experiencing love, you are experiencing attachment. If you really love, then you'll experience an overflowing, you will experience love for all. It's a natural consequence of loving. It is not a natural consequence of attachment. In attachment, you're channeling all of your love in one direction. In love you're experiencing something in one direction that frees you in all directions. It's as if you threw a stone into a pond. Where the stone hits the water, radiations ripple outward. When you really love, it may be directed toward one object, but it radiates into love for all of existence. That is why love is said to be divine. So this is the possibility that you have as a jealous person. When you work on jealousy, forget the lover and deal with your own relationship to existence. Go deep inside yourself, slowly peel away the outer layers of the onion until you come to the core that is your own relationship to existence. Then you will free yourself to love more. My own love relationships have been guided by my teacher. In the last five years he has shaped all the significant factors in the development of my love life, because he wants me to reach beyond the neurotic needs of relationship. There was a time when I experienced a lot of pain in loving, a lot of jealousy. I felt that I was always living in fear of loss. I felt like I couldn't hold on, and I was in constant pain because of it. So I went to my teacher and asked what to do. His answer cut through to the core. "Simply love more," he said. "To cut right through fear of loss which is infantile in its source, right to the core of the basic relationship what you have to existence, go into more loving." In other words, if you love someone, go deep into your own unique experience of what that love is, and just let that be who you are. Surrender to it. Build your identity upon it. You are not a person who is jealous. Not someone who's trying to control. Not even someone who's fearing. You are love experiencing itself deeper and deeper within its own fullness. "Your love is a boat," Bhagwan said. "Just go on, enter loving more, tending, penetrating -- and the boat, of its own volition, will carry you to the other shore." ++ [dark1x1_2.gif] [dark1x1_2.gif] What Is Jealousy What Is Jealousy [dark1x1_2.gif] [dark1x1_2.gif] [dark1x1_2.gif] [light1x1.gif] [dark1x1_2.gif] [dark1x1_2.gif] [light1x1.gif] You are here: Life Challenges >> Learn More About Overcoming Jealousy! >> What Is Jealousy What Is Jealousy? What is jealousy? According to Webster's dictionary, jealousy is described as "the state of being jealous." In order to unravel the circular reasoning we must discover what jealous means. Jealous is a resentful envy as of someone's success, achievements, advantages, etc. Envy and jealousy are closely related, however a connotation difference exists. To quote Webster, "Envy denotes a longing to possess something awarded to or achieved by another. . .Jealousy, on the other hand, denotes a feeling of resentment that another has gained something that one more rightfully deserves. Jealousy also refers to anguish caused by fear of losing someone or something to a rival." As you may have gathered from the above explanations, jealousy can be unhealthy or healthy, depending on your motivation. Unhealthy jealousy stems from fear, insecurity, deception, or covetousness. When you feel yourself acting out in jealousy, you need to examine the reason why you feel jealous. Does a threat truly exist or is your perception off base? When you are battling insecurity, another person's achievements may come across to you as a threat. For example, a co-worker gets a raise for putting in extra hours on an important subject. Instead of being thrilled for him, you feel jealous even though you did not put the same hours in. You take his promotion as a personal reflection on you. Next time you feel the angst of jealousy creep into your chest stop, think, and discern the source of jealousy. Once you discover why you are jealous you need to deal with the issue. Jealousy is not all bad. A healthy jealousy needs to be developed in family relationships. This type of jealousy is a protective fight to maintain your relationships. Would you sit by while a person seduces your spouse or deceives your child? No, you would fight for them. You would do all you could to declare truth. God demonstrates protective jealousy in a similar way. Exodus 34:14 gives insight to the nature of God: "Do not worship any other god, for the LORD, whose name is Jealous, is a jealous God." Our allegiance belongs to God alone. He is zealous to bring each human being into a rejuvenating relationship with Him. His protective jealousy is a wondrous comfort to those who believe and honor Christ as the ultimate authority. 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Article Word Count: 822 [View Summary] Comments (0) In the Western world we have moved further and further away from the examination of mental processes and how they impact upon the way in which our lives unfold. This can be seen in many areas of our lives; we abrogate responsibility for how we feel to circumstances, other people - anything and everything other than ourselves and how we think. Take health, for example. We constantly look for a physical cause and not a mental one, when in fact both physical and mental forces are likely to be working together to effect a physical symptom. Depression can be caused just as easily by how you think about things as by a chemical trigger in your brain. The two causes tend to be intertwined. But it is less painful to go to the doctor for pills than it is to take the time to introspect and examine ones thoughts and feelings or to face the reality of one's circumstances; or is it less painful? In the short term perhaps this is the case, but in the long term I very much doubt it. And if we ignore the mental, we completely bury the spiritual. We all too easily close our minds off to this seemingly intangible aspect of the universe in which we reside. And yet, we do pay some lip service to spiritual wisdom. Most of us accept the truth in the quotes from the ancient Greeks, Buddha or other sages. Even those who are "non-believers" are happy to listen to such pearls of wisdom and accept them as the truth, whilst closing their minds to the real source of such wisdom. In the Eastern world spirituality has been preserved throughout the centuries. And in the West, there is clearly a gradual return of spiritual awareness which can be seen in the volume of contemporary books being written on the subject and also the content of numerous television documentaries. I myself notice it in the growing number of people who purchase hypnosis downloads and hypnosis recordings relating to matters of spirituality. Why is it so important that we grow in spiritual awareness? We are all multidimensional beings. We are mind, body and spirit. Everything in life is made up of energy and has its own energy frequency. Everything and everyone has their own electromagnetic field. We send out electrical frequencies through our very thoughts and we correspondingly magnetize electrical frequencies into our lives. You can choose to add more power to your thoughts as you tap into the power of the universe. Some people refer to this as the collective unconscious, others think of it more in terms of a higher being. This is not at cross purposes with any religion or faith you may have. Every religion agrees that there is a higher being, a source of all things, and you can approach spirituality in the light of your particular faith. If you are not of any particular religion you can apply spirituality in a manner which is comfortable to you - be it thinking in terms of the collective unconscious, or a higher being. Most of us are very set in our beliefs and do not question things enough. People are far more comfortable seeking a physical cause as opposed to a psychological one - let alone a spiritual one. Yet to ignore your spirit being, you ignore the real you. Your spirit is where your inner wisdom comes from. It is your higher self. You can easily tap into your spiritual side, and in so doing you will become more aligned and in tune with source, with the higher you. There are certain laws of the universe which, once you are aware of them, you can choose to consciously apply. Sometimes this is called cosmic ordering. From a scientific viewpoint, your thoughts have energy, and as you focus on something and energize that thought with a lot of emotion and are consistent in your thoughts, you will magnetize what you want into your reality. From a spiritual perspective, as you ask the universe, the collective unconscious, the higher source for something, and believe that it will be provided, and are again consistent in your thoughts, the universe will make it happen. A journey into spirituality will allow you to feel more in tune with your higher self, to feel aligned with source. You will feel that you can open your mind more to your inner wisdom and to the wisdom of the universe; you will find your true self, and your purpose and inspiration in life. As you pay attention to your spirit self and acknowledge who you really are you will experience an incredible feeling of freedom, inspiration and purpose in your life. As you allow yourself to entertain the realms of spirituality you will feel that you have moved from damp darkness into warm bright sunlight. Roseanna Leaton, specialist in hypnosis mp3 downloads and hypnosis recordings. With a degree in psychology and numerous qualifications in hypnotherapy, Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) and sports psychology, Roseanna Leaton is one of the leading practitioners of self-improvement. You can get a free hypnosis download and also peruse her extensive library of hypnosis downloads for health and self-improvement. Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Roseanna_Leaton Roseanna Leaton - EzineArticles Expert Author Like This Article? Facebook Twitter StumbleUpon Delicious FriendFeed Digg Add A Comment Send To Friends Print This Article Add To Favorites Suggest A Topic EzinePublisher Report Article Cite this Article Close MLA Style Citation: Leaton, Roseanna "Connecting With Your Spiritual Source." 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In small quantities, stress is helpful -- it can motivate you and help you be more productive. However, too much stress, or a strong response to stress, is harmful. It can set you up for general poor health, as well as physical and psychological illnesses like infection, heart disease, and depression. Ongoing stress can lead to anxiety and unhealthy behaviors like overeating and abuse of alcohol or drugs. Emotional states like grief or depression, and health conditions like an overactive thyroid, low blood sugar, or heart attack can also cause stress-like symptoms. Anxiety is often accompanied by physical symptoms, including: * Abdominal pain (this may be the only symptom of anxiety, especially in a child) * Diarrhea or frequent need to urinate * Dizziness * Dry mouth or difficulty swallowing * Headaches * Muscle tension * Rapid breathing * Rapid or irregular heart rate * Sweating * Twitching or trembling Sometimes other symptoms occur with anxiety: * Decreased concentration * Fatigue * Irritability, including loss of your temper * Sexual problems * Sleeping difficulties, including nightmares Anxiety may occur as part of an anxiety disorder. Anxiety disorders are a group of psychiatric conditions that involve excessive anxiety. They include: * Generalized anxiety disorder * Obsessive-compulsive disorder * Panic disorder * Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) * Social anxiety disorder * Specific phobias Causes Certain drugs, both recreational and medicinal, can lead to symptoms of anxiety due to either side effects or withdrawal from the drug. Such drugs include: * ADHD medications, especially amphetamines * Alcohol * Benzodiazepines (during withdrawal) * Bronchodilators (for asthma and certain other breathing disorders) * Caffeine * Cocaine * Cold remedies * Decongestants * Diet pills * Marijuana * Nicotine * Thyroid medications A poor diet -- for example, low levels of vitamin B12 -- can also contribute to stress or anxiety. In very rare cases, a tumor of the adrenal gland (pheochromocytoma) may cause anxiety or stress-like symptoms. The symptoms are caused by an overproduction of hormones responsible for the feelings of anxiety. Home Care The most effective solution is to find and address the source of your stress or anxiety. This can be difficult, because the cause of the anxiety may not be conscious. A first step is to take an inventory of what you think might be making you "stressed out," trying to be as honest with yourself as possible: * What do you worry about most? * Is something constantly on your mind? * Is there something that you fear will happen? * Does anything in particular make you sad or depressed? * Keep a diary of the experiences and thoughts that seem to be related to your anxiety. Are your thoughts adding to your anxiety in these situations? Then, find someone you trust (friend, family member, neighbor, clergy) who will listen to you. Often, just talking to a friend or loved one is all that you need to relieve anxiety. Most communities also have support groups and hotlines that can help. Social workers, psychologists, and psychiatrists can be very effective in helping you reduce anxiety through therapy or medication. Also, find healthy lifestyle choices to help you cope with stress. For example: * Don't use nicotine, cocaine, or other recreational drugs. * Eat a well-balanced, healthy diet. Don't overeat. * Exercise regularly. * Find self-help books at your local library or bookstore. * Get enough sleep. * Learn and practice relaxation techniques like guided imagery, progressive muscle relaxation, yoga, tai chi, or meditation. * Limit caffeine and alcohol. * Take breaks from work. Make sure to balance fun activities with your responsibilities. Spend time with people you enjoy. When to Contact a Medical Professional Your doctor can help you determine if your anxiety would be best evaluated and treated by a mental health care professional. Call 911 if: * You have crushing chest pain, especially with shortness of breath, dizziness, or sweating. These symptoms might be caused by a heart attack, which can also cause feelings of anxiety. * You have thoughts of suicide. 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Psychotherapy (also called talk therapy), such as cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT) or psychodynamic therapy has been shown to significantly decrease anxiety. In some cases, medications such as antidepressants may be appropriate. See: Generalized anxiety disorders for more information. Alternative Names Anxiety; Feeling uptight; Stress; Tension; Jitters; Apprehension References Larzelere MM, Jones GN. Stress and health. Prim Care. 2008;35:839-856. Ahmed SM, Lemkau JP. Psychosocial influences on health. In: Rakel RE, ed. Textbook of Family Medicine. 7th ed. Philadelphia, Pa: Saunders Elsevier; 2007:chap 4. Update Date: 2/22/2010 Updated by: David B. Merrill, MD, Assistant Clinical Professor of Psychiatry, Department of Psychiatry, Columbia University Medical Center, New York, NY. Also reviewed by David Zieve, MD, MHA, Medical Director, A.D.A.M., Inc. 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While some elements can be installed ‘out of the box’, others have proved difficult to implement. The greatest source of project risk is uncertainty, generated from a number of sources, such as a limited understanding of business requirements, variable product capabilities, or a poor track record of implementation. In the context of limited budgets and timetables, organisations must identify the most uncertain aspects of a CMS project, and concentrate management efforts on them. This makes the most effective use of available resources, reduces project risks, and maximises overall outcomes. The starting point for improving the management of CMS projects is to recognise the sources of uncertainty, and how these affect project outcomes. Future articles will then explore how best to manage these uncertainties. Sources of uncertainty Common sources of CMS uncertainty include: Difficulty in determining concrete business requirements It may be difficult to determine the detailed business requirements for specific CMS functionality within the scope of the evaluation process. This is often an issue when there are strong time constraints on the requirements gathering or selection process. Example: the need for ‘content reuse’ can often be difficult to discern in detail during a rapid requirements-gathering process. Unknown future business directions Insufficient information may be known about the strategic directions of the organisations to be confident that the CMS will meet future needs. This is a key issue in organisations that are undergoing rapid change or innovation. Example: the future need for e-commerce on the website might be related to a review of business activities that will not be completed until after the CMS has been selected. Widespread implementation difficulties Some aspects of content management systems have proved difficult to successfully implement in past projects, due to a range of reasons (only some of which may be technical in nature). Example: workflow is often stated as a primary reason for obtaining a content management system, yet many organisations are now ‘unrolling’ it due to failed deployments. Highly-variable product capabilities There is a large degree of variation between vendors in how specific features and capabilities have been implemented. With each approach having a unique mix of strengths and weaknesses, this can be a major cause of uncertainty during implementation. Example: many organisations need to integrate existing web-based applications into the CMS, so that a consistent page layout and formatting is applied across an entire site. Vendors, however, have tackled this issue using many different approaches, and not all will match the specific needs of the organisation. Complexity of requirements or implementation Some features and aspects of a content management system are very complex to identify or implement, and will remain so for the foreseeable future regardless of product upgrades. Example: integrating with other business systems is rarely simple or easy. People issues Content management is not a technology issue. While a content management system is typically deployed as part of the project, there are many supporting activities that have an equal (or greater) impact upon project success. Managing these ‘people issues’ introduces complexity into CMS projects, and broadens their scope. Example: decentralised authoring requires the active participation of authors to be successful. For a range of reasons, this has proved challenging in many projects, and is not always successful. (For further information regarding the evaluation and selection of a CMS, download the Content Management Requirements Toolkit.) 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